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Some Self Reflection

Peasant
Peasant Member Posts: 4,104
in General Discussions

Just finished watching a Ted talk on self-reflection when I realized that the main idea of the talk would be well suited to the Dead by Daylight community. The main idea was "Ask what questions, not why questions." What this means should be simple enough but I'll elaborate in case it didn't sink in. When doing anything in your life even something as simple as playing Dead by Daylight, try to ask yourself questions that start with "what" and not "why". Here are a couple of examples for both sides:

Survivor examples:
Don't ask yourself: Why was I camped? Ask yourself: What can I do to not get camped again?
Don't ask yourself: Why was I tunneled? Ask yourself: What can I do to not get tunneled again?

Killer examples:
Don't ask yourself: Why was I bullied? Ask yourself: What can I do to punish bullying/not have it happen again?
Don't ask yourself: Why did I lose? Ask yourself: What did I do wrong/What can I do better?

Just figured I'd put this here for everyone.
Cheers!

Comments

  • Jack11803
    Jack11803 Member Posts: 3,918

    The reason people hate it so much is because this is a reactionary assymetrical game. You can’t do anything. If the killer really wants you dead, you dead. If a SWF wants to bully, it bully’s

  • cTrix
    cTrix Member Posts: 122
    edited September 2018

    Instead of asking yourself
    "What can I do to make this game more enjoyable"
    ask yourself
    "What game mechanics incentivize the experience that I disagree with, and how can those game mechanics be changed to incentivize a more fun game experience"

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    Peasant said:

    Just finished watching a Ted talk on self-reflection when I realized that the main idea of the talk would be well suited to the Dead by Daylight community. The main idea was "Ask what questions, not why questions." What this means should be simple enough but I'll elaborate in case it didn't sink in. When doing anything in your life even something as simple as playing Dead by Daylight, try to ask yourself questions that start with "what" and not "why". Here are a couple of examples for both sides:

    Survivor examples:
    Don't ask yourself: Why was I camped? Ask yourself: What can I do to not get camped again?
    Don't ask yourself: Why was I tunneled? Ask yourself: What can I do to not get tunneled again?

    Killer examples:
    Don't ask yourself: Why was I bullied? Ask yourself: What can I do to punish bullying/not have it happen again?
    Don't ask yourself: Why did I lose? Ask yourself: What did I do wrong/What can I do better?

    Just figured I'd put this here for everyone.
    Cheers!

    Ooo, in my speech and debate class... We look at a lot of Ted Talks! However, I do wish that there was a feature in DBD where you watch your last played match so that you can reflect on your mistakes! :)
  • Tzeentchling9
    Tzeentchling9 Member Posts: 1,796
    To bad the only answer to those two Killer examples is: Play Nurse.
  • Peasant
    Peasant Member Posts: 4,104

    @Nickenzie While it's not an official in-game tool, it is free: https://obsproject.com/

  • cTrix
    cTrix Member Posts: 122

    Keep in mind Ted Talks are independed speakers and independed organizers, so there really is no standard to their quality or objective truth. When listening to someone hold a talk, especially on the internet but also in real life, your first instinct is to go and say "this is probably right". But always ask yourself "does this actually make sense? And can I get an educated second opinion on that".

    Cus there's some ted talks I've seen that where dishonest and exploitative. The same way politics can be dishonest and exploitative, and cults are dishonest and exploitative. (among other things)

  • Peasant
    Peasant Member Posts: 4,104

    @cTrix said:
    Keep in mind Ted Talks are independed speakers and independed organizers, so there really is no standard to their quality or objective truth. When listening to someone hold a talk, especially on the internet but also in real life, your first instinct is to go and say "this is probably right". But always ask yourself "does this actually make sense? And can I get an educated second opinion on that".

    Cus there's some ted talks I've seen that where dishonest and exploitative. The same way politics can be dishonest and exploitative, and cults are dishonest and exploitative. (among other things)

    While I understand your concerns and initially shared them myself after some brief reflection I could see the wisdom in the speaker's words. For example, when you ask the question "Oh why me?" you aren't actually doing anything worthwhile. Meanwhile by asking "What did I do?" it causes you to re-evaluate the events leading up to the unfortunate circumstance and thus learn from your mistakes.

    After studying the rules of the forum I made certain that the content I had planned on posting would be both relevant and productive, to an extent.