Kinda off-topic: Does anyone know how to deal with Bordeline Personality Disorder (BPD)?
I keep raging over simple things then get depressed like two seconds later. Like cross play for example, I’m a console killer I’ve yet to win. So I took a break then got back on to again be filled with rage and depression. I want to get help, but help cost money and I’m 17. What’s worst is that I self diagnosed myself and my family won’t believe me and they have all sorts of conspiracies, which only makes me more angrier. I’ve tried school counseling but they did nothing about it. I’ve tried apps but none of them helps it or even understands. Just thinking about it makes me so so angry, but I don’t want to feel angry. I be asked everyone on other sites but all they could say is don’t self diagnose yourself or gets some help without applying help themselves. To be honest, I think about ending it all because I feel so isolated, but it’s not a pity party. I just need to know if anyone knows how to deal with this problem so I can finally move on from this lesson?
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Generally, you start by not self-diagnosing. I'd recommend seeing a professional for help, but it sounds like you live in a country where you have to pay for a trip to the doctor.
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The reason everyone tells you not to self diagnose is because it makes things even worse.
I don't even need to know anything about you, or even your current situation, to know that you most likely gained additional symptoms after reading more about it. It's possible for you to believe so hard that you have a disorder that your mind copies what it reads so you "fit". The best thing you can do is talk to a therapist.
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I suggest the person seek professional help. You are unlikely to find that here. Also, if someone believes that they do suffer from this, playing a game about serial killers is probably not advised.
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- I hope they don’t close this thread because I can sense a high cry for help and I’d love to help, even if it’s just a little bit.
- I’m no psychologist or therapist, so I don’t want to throw some advice out there that I don’t know would help/lessen your anger/stress. However I have a phone number here that you can call. Don’t know if it’d get you the help you’re seeking. 1-800-273-8255 (Suicide Prevention/Life Crisis Hotline).
If you need someone to simply just talk to or just express your anger or frustrations to, I’m willing to communicate off of the forums and help you 💜 So sorry to hear you’re going through this and I can relate heavily having extreme anxiety and seasonal depression. Please, please, please reach out for help from whomever you seek it from.
Edit: You’re still so young. It hurts to hear you’re thinking this way and going through this.
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Although I was younger than you when I dealt with anger like this, usually I kept on telling myself that I was prepared to make a mistake and that it would be ok if I did.
If you can't do that or want another option, ranting to friends can be helpful, or someone here on the forums. If you don't have anyone to rant to you could rant to yourself, or what I did, punch something soft. (I'd reccomend going with the first option with accepting some minor things will happen).
Apologies if this doesn't help, and I hope your family start to realise that you need some help.
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Thank you, I’ve been talking to myself about my problems for as long as I can remember. But usually I can’t catch my rage before it happens, tbh that’s what I really need help with.
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- Breathing exercises help, my bro. There's a really sweet Chinese one I do that doubles as a stretching exercise called Baduanjin, and you can watch a video of someone doing it here. If you're interested, you can also read about it on Wikipedia or this site.
- People don't generally trust self-diagnosis even if you turn out to be right, so if you have any source of income, I would recommend saving up to go see a therapist and get their opinion. If you don't have any sources of income, you could consider looking for a part-time job or doing chores for neighbours.
- (It might help you to say "I think I might have borderline personality disorder", rather than "I have borderline personality disorder". This will help others to take you more seriously, because you're stating what you believe to be true, instead of just asserting something that might or might not be true.
- If you feel yourself getting angry at DBD, I recommend gently putting the controller down and closing your eyes. Keeping control of yourself IRL is much more important than keeping control of how well you're doing in-game, so even if that means survivors get more time to do gens, learning to control your rage will help you do better in the long run.
- (You never know, a lot of survivors like to run up and taunt a Killer who's just standing still. Maybe you can get a few cheeky hits that way ;>)
- More than anything else, remember that no matter what kind of disorder you do or don't have, something you always have control over is your attitude to getting better. The cool thing about suffering is that it only wins when you let it win - as soon as you get back up and decide to keep going, you're the one who wins.
Bless you my friend; I'm on Discord @Jallybwan#5019 if you'd like to talk further.
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It is definitely important not to self diagnose, as that can also bring on a placebo effect which you don’t want.
However, make an appointment with a professional and tell them you suspect you might have BPD but would like to get to the bottom of it and generally gain an understanding of what is going on. It could be MANY things, and a lot of symptoms overlap so while you may think it’s BPD it could be something else entirely.
Mental health can be hard. Look after yourself and please get the help you need.
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Find a way to let go off the anger/stress. Maybe do sports or something where you are active, not video games (you don’t have to stop games completely but find something else). If you notice a match makes you rage take immediately a break. You don’t have to DC but start farming/memeing around.
we can’t diagnose you, and if someone tells you you shouldn’t diagnose yourself they are probably right. This can lead to more issues.
find someone to talk seriously about it, a good friend, if you do some sort of team sports or start it, find someone there.
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Side Note: This is why toxicity is so unwanted. People need to understand there are people who play this game who suffer certain anxieties, depressions, mental obstacles & simple acts of kindness can go a long way.
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amen to that
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Most effective therapy for BPD is DBT. Do some research and reach out to local agencies seeing who provides it. Most therapists have at least some training in it. If you are in the US and need help with where to look you can search google for your county's mental health board (Adamhs Board) and they will provide resources.
Just remembered each state has its own name for their board of mental health. Another way to find providers of mental health is call your insurances customer service number and ask for local in network providers.
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Meditation helps a lot of people. There are good articles on
about getting started and the importance of self care and mental health in general.
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I do meditation but there is this tendency of refusing to do it. I will be in the middle of meditation and I will stop because of a large amount of disinterest.
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Cleaning and studying Spanish seems to help but I’ll lose interest very quickly. I have a therory that this disorder is somehow tied to your motivation. Heck, sometimes I think it has a mind of its own.
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Try setting up a reward system for yourself. If you can meditate for 10 minutes, you get a chocolate bar, for example.
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I’ll try that method.
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You need a professional opinion. That means you need to consult a psychiatrist.
Looking at yourself, or taking informations from the internet is ok, but it doesn't replace a psychiatrist.
Infact it can make it worse, since you start to believe in things that are maybe not the reality.
Try to confince your parents for 1-2 psychiatrist talks. If the psychiatrist then still thinks that you doesn't need any help, you can be relieved that you maybe have exaggerated with your feelings. If not, well... Then you should better be ready for viewing this psychiatrist for a long time.
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There are different types. I find mindfulness meditation helps me the most with my anxiety. https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/
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Why are you bringing your own personal issues here? This is a game forum, not a place to put your life story.
I'm sorry that you're having a difficult time when playing the game and is giving you a bad time, but I think the best option is to take a break and focus on your health. With how self diagnosis goes, you should seek help from professionals. I do not want to come out disrespectful or condescending in any way, just feel as if this is not the place to vent about your personal issues.
Hope everything goes well ❤️
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That’s quite inconsiderate. This person is clearly struggling and reaching out for help however they can. It should be in off topic but nbd
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I was diagnosed with BPD when I was your age, I spent a lot of time in my late teens/early twenties in psyc wards and everything was just really sh*t. A big part of getting better for me was getting treatment, which I hope you can get at some point - but also getting older, BPD often gets a lot less intense than it is as your age. So I know "it gets better" is a cliché but it's usually true for us. Now I'm 30 & starting my master's degree next month, and everything is nuch easier to deal with (including losing in games, I'm very glad I didn't do PvP back then) even though I would never have imagined anything could be even slightly better than the constant misery, rage, self hatred that defined my life for a few years. So hang in there.
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For me it’s very easy for me to hit rock bottom so I’ll take as much help I can get. Sometimes you got to take risks to get what is needed.
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My best friend died in 2016 of an unintentional drug overdose. He had been diagnosed with BPD for several years, and there was a noticeable improvement in terms of the mania / depression roller coaster when he was medicated (if not the impulse control).
Sadly he had a gastric bypass, the medicine stopped working, he went downhill fast (in and out of rehab, relationships, etc). I'm 40 now, he died at 39. I was going to post the same # Unicorn did. I'm not a professional but mental health is not a joke. It's still something I think about daily. I'm glad you got the help you needed.
EDIT: I should add BPD is not easy to diagnose, even for professionals, and is often misdiagnosed.
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Proud of you! :) As a studying psychologist, I think it’s really important that this stuff is talked about. It’s negative comments like that that contribute to stigmatizing mental health & making people feel badly about reaching out, when it should in fact be normalized.
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Thank you and I’m sorry for your loss
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Try to get yourself into a mindset in which that won't affect you, I know that sounds kinda stupid but it helped me. Perhaps meditation, try not to take the game to seriously. Try laughing at your mistakes, that helped me. I hope this helps you mate.
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Thanks, and I'm sorry for your loss.
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