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Questioning if being nice is even worth it anymore

Gaffy
Gaffy Member Posts: 222

I'm not saying good hearted people in this game don't exist, but they are SO rare it is honestly sad. I try and play nice as killer then get called a crutch needer or bad for having that one perk people don't like. I play bad and get stomped by survs and get called bad because they just used macmillan infinites or some other dumb stuff. I find it very hard to just play how I like and feel like I'm being nice to people, because half the time when I actually do people just flame me anyway. Any tips?

Comments

  • Beefmur
    Beefmur Member Posts: 261

    Its just human nature to be an ######### dont let it get to you. What killers do you play because that heavily impacted the experience

  • TurtleSushiTV
    TurtleSushiTV Member Posts: 156

    As a Killer main myself I've turned a blind eye to this type of behavior. I've learned you cant please everyone and opinions are like #########, everyone has one. I just try to abide by the rules of no camping, no tunneling. Your gonna get toxicity no matter what side of the fence your on. Play the game because you enjoy it and try not to focus on the negativity of some members of the community. There are good people in the community don't let a few bad eggs change your experience, Just focus on you and your game don't let anyone change you I say :}

  • Shaped
    Shaped Member Posts: 5,906
    edited March 2021

    Just play how you want who cares what others think. The only thing I dislike is bm'ing and toxicness in chat.

  • Im_Tired
    Im_Tired Member Posts: 101
    edited March 2021

    It's super hard to let the negativity roll of your back but here are two suggestions that seem kinda silly but might help

    1) When toxic players tilt you, take a game or few to meme with survivors. Like pick Ghostface and be the friendly teabagger who lets them drop pallets on you and crouches across the map with you. Or pick Pyramid head and draw messages on the ground with rites of judgement lmao That's usually the easiest way to get survivors to be nice, give you free hits, free hooks, and you can pretend for a sec that those survivors aren't the type to BM you like the rest

    2) If you're PC, give yourself a ridiculously positive name. I changed my steam ID to 'You Are Beautiful' and people actually seem to appreciate it and my after game toxicity seemed to drop lmfao

  • Xzan
    Xzan Member Posts: 907

    Close Endgamechat. Disable profile comments. Giving them 0 room to vent is a good way.

    And don't forget that you play for your fun. The fun of the other side in a PvP game isn't your concern. (But don't facecamp or do other toxic stuff)

  • OmegaXII
    OmegaXII Member Posts: 2,220

    Just play however you like. You’re not responsible for anyone else’s fun. You own the game, and you deserve to have fun.

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 5,229

    I wish I could hide my rank sometimes. I want to play killers I am inexperienced with, and like, just have fun sometimes- but I can't.

    If I don't go try hard, break pallets I should break and such, survivors will throw a FIT in the postgame for me being the rank I am and not playing a certain way. It's really obnoxious and annoying. All your killers are treated as the same rank and you can't be nice for even a SECOND or people will take the niceness and use it to bully you.

    I've literally had matches where I have 3 people in basement as trapper, and give them all a second chance- and let them all out and such; only for them to like.....T-bag me when they turn the match around and call me a baby in post game chat.

    So I totally feel you OP.

  • Marc_go_solo
    Marc_go_solo Member Posts: 5,347

    Focus on your own enjoyment. No matter how you play the game, whether kindly or troll-like, someone will find a reason to get pissy. Play how you feel works best for what you want to get out of the game.

    However, as advice, never rise to another's toxicity. If you receive message from people moaning just ignore and move on, or send something silly back which is inoffensive but shows you're not too bothered, then ignore and move on.

    Also, if someone has played well and isn't acting immature, feel free to compliment them. Good will does spread.

  • Pulsar
    Pulsar Member Posts: 20,908

    I say GG :D after every single game.

    I used to be a pretty toxic gamer (back in my OW days) and saying GG to people helps me remember that there is another human being on the other side of my connection.

    I've also had a lot of really nice conversations and made a lot of friends by doing that :)

  • Raja
    Raja Member Posts: 319

    Play how you want and damn them

  • DawnMad
    DawnMad Member Posts: 1,030

    If you are being nice, don't do it for other people, do it if YOU think they deserve it. When I play survivor I only play nice to people who also play nice by not tunneling/camping or being toxic in general. And as a killer I only give hatch to survivors who I thought deserved it because of a ######### team or me tunneling them too much in the game because of not being able to find anyone else. My point is that do nice things if YOU think you should, so if they turn out toxic at the end you wouldn't feel betrayed, you would just be less gullible next time.

  • swager21
    swager21 Member Posts: 1,019

    thats the reason im a survivor main cuz when i play killer i always hesitate to kill the last survivor. having a good personality is a huge weakness in this game. i cant deal with the fact that i potentially pissed someone off who a was just trying to have fun. when i play killer and i hook someone i immediately let them get unhooked and go to a gen.

  • idektbh
    idektbh Member Posts: 129

    It's kinda the same for me honestly, but I don't really mind it cause I tend to get lovely heart warming endgame chats thanks to that and it just feels worth it. It's actually pretty rare for me to get salt from the endgame chat(aside from teabags, that's pretty common everywhere for some reason), I get more salt when I'm playing survivor then killer for some reason

  • swager21
    swager21 Member Posts: 1,019

    yeah it makes me feel better if they atleast thank me in the chat

  • Lost_in_the_Fog
    Lost_in_the_Fog Member Posts: 452

    Play the game the way you want to and don't worry about trying to please every other player. If petty people's salty comments get to you too much just hide the end game chat. It's the best thing I ever did and I enjoy the game waaaaaaay more now.

  • chargernick85
    chargernick85 Member Posts: 3,171

    It's ok to be nice so to speak but only to a certain extent because it is very very rarely returned. For instance I will not tunnnel or proxy ever until I absolutely have too. That's about as nice as I get now though survivors are vicious I have learned of late and I mean all of them unless of course they are losing. I know whoever reads this is going to say do class all survivors this way but when I learned nurse it took almost 3 weeks (on console) to start consistantly winning so it was rough to say the least but was made it harder? bullying and I mean everyone got in on the fun when I would finnally get a down all 3 would stand by the hooks, flashlight clicks, tbags, the best one standing at exit gate pretending to let me get a practice blink only to run out or dead hard out the gate, and 3-5 minute games like what's the rush no 1 in danger max out your points and let me try to blink more than 5 times a match geez. Oh well water under the bridge now oh wait know it's not that's why I'm slugging for the 4k, hooking the last survivor right next to hatch and shaking my head, hell I had the last 2 snoot my boop last night and I still killed them both hooking the sweet yui next to hatch. She messaged me after and said "I thought we had something?" I had to explain it to her and she completely understood. Point being stop being a d*ck because you never know what monster you will make and how many they will effect and then make themselves. Vicious cycle.

  • milkybandit69
    milkybandit69 Member Posts: 64

    Played 2 matches last night. Played a Bloody Party Streamer on both.


    Match 1: 3/4 survivors bm'ing. I spread aggro and play fair. 4 man escape

    Match 2: 3/4 survivors bm'ing. I'm still playing fair. 4k.

    Yeah, I think I'm done. No more free hatch escapes, no more farming when half the team dc's, no more resetting pallets in front of me for the stupid Yui challenge. I'll proxy, tunnel, slug till they bleed out, whatever it takes.

  • wildtrapjake
    wildtrapjake Member Posts: 68

    I recommend turning off end game chat. Then the only opinion you encounter is your own.

  • C3Tooth
    C3Tooth Member Posts: 8,266

    When I started to play Killer, I down a survivor near the basement, I always hook on the closest to the stair because I was afraid if I hook the furthest hook, other survivors not dare to unhook them and they would die on 1st hook.

  • ProfGameAndTalk
    ProfGameAndTalk Member Posts: 326

    Oh my good Lord, this is great! Changing my name tonight to something so positive the rainbows and cupcakes are gonna insta-spawn!!! Thanks for the great idea!

  • Forrestgump
    Forrestgump Member Posts: 60

    i used to be a nice killer who always give hatch and say ggwp, but then i took a "gg ez trash killer" to the knee. :(

  • milkybandit69
    milkybandit69 Member Posts: 64

    And not just the toxic Neas, but the baby Dweets and the default Megs too!

  • killz4fun
    killz4fun Member Posts: 165

    @Gaffy you just play thru to yourself.. enjoy it.. you might want to shut the chat down though....

    I was just called trash, toxic and tunneler from a salty 16 rank survivor that lost and don't even know what tunneling is.. so don't mind them..