Mental Health

I am sorry to hear about your situation.

Im not sure if this will be of any help, but ill give it a shot.

You have that here too, its just perks behind paywalls with every new chapter. Can it be played with out, yearh sure, so can overwatch.

But its fun when you have all the toys the other people use too.

I hope you get some help and that you get better soon.

Ha, I didn't even realize that.

This friggin PC is built like a damn tank thankfully for me

Ultimately, video games are meant to be fun, and as a hobby, you shouldn't play the game for any other reason (esports/streaming is extremely unlikely to be succesful, statistically you could as well play the lottery). I feel like what you're describing is video game addiction. And my advice will not be a boring & generic "play less video games" because I don't think that's the problem, I think you can actually play 50 hours a week without being addicted, but the problem is it seems in your case you are playing without really knowing why. Probably you hope that "something" will happen, but then stop and rationalize what that "something" is, whether you really need it.

I have one particular example in mind: at some point probably you have faced a bully squad that tbagged you hard and told you that you are so bad that you couldn't even kill one of them etc. When that happens, you might feel tempted to think that it is because you're truly bad at the game and then the solution is to simply play more games, so that you become very good at the game and can beat these toxic players, but thinking this is one of the worst mistakes you could make. Because now you would no longer playing a game as a hobby, so 1) You'll sink thousands of hours "practicing" for a video game, wasting your own time not doing anything productive, and not even having fun, just to take revenge over a few losers you'll never meet again and 2) You'll still, always, end up facing someone better than you at some point, and this experience will always repeat, because you'll always end up meeting a toxic player who is just better than you. Even Otzdarva got bullied in one or two of his thousand games played.

No one cares that you lost a game at DBD. Literally. If you asked your friends, do you think they would care that you lost a game at DBD? I can guarantee they don't. Did one of your friends ever asked what was your K/D? how much time you played DBD? Noone cares. I've played games for 15+ years, I've been very good at some, yet that has literally made me gain ZERO thing in real life. If anything, being too good at a game will often make other gamers jealous and write more toxic things, while if you sandbag and let them win you'll suddenly notice that random people comment with +reps on your profile, lol.

Look at every single top streamer. They play for fun, at all times. Skermz and Alby imo are excellent examples, they get facecamped, hit on hook, killer closes the hatch on their face they absolutely don't give a #########, and it's more fun for everyone that way. The other day Alby was trying to play Bubba and got absolutely ######### on by a SWF, he DC'd then joked about it with his "bullies" in chat, it was absolutely hilarious. Where someone might have become angry because his ego was hit, Alby took it like a grown man and with a lot of humor. I recommend watching their streams, just so you can maybe discover a fresh approach on how to play DBD.

If you know other gamers, something that helps a lot is to play with a friend. That way you can always discuss/joke even when the game is awfull, so you will be less inclined to take it seriously. And FFS I know we shouldn't encourage DC'ing but if it's going to impact your mental health then just leave or AFK man.

Never hurts to see a psychologist as others said, but maybe my modest anecdotes will help you a bit.

Hey.

I won't recommend you see a professional, rather than paying close attention on what exactly brings negative emotions after sessions.

The best way for both the object and initiator is to get your behaviour and goals changed relatively to the object. (In this case, the game)

You most likely want to continue playing the game due to some weird (to me) condition, how you said "Addiction", if the subjects (players) giving you negative emotions occasionally, finding the other way to fullfill the joy (bots) is one way to treat yourself better way.

Personally, I'd recommend you to try revising the sources and goals of what have happen to your emotional state after each interaction with the object which is impacting your mental state even after the exact "interaction". In case of your message, you already know the "issue", it's the subjects.

"Why players getting to your mood?", "Why it's impacting your life, after a session?", "How you treated yourself to be able to comeback after interaction with the object of your stress?"

Easier (but not the best) way is do exactly what @Ghouled_Mojo said, and completely block any "relations" with the object, to prevent interactions with the subjects. Same as @GentlemanFridge .

Try to interact with the source in a different way which is less impactfull on your emotions (bots), but you have to understand, doing that will not change (or treat) anything to exact source. So basically, I'd like to read some of your answers to basic questions:

1. What is your current goal while you playing the game?
2. What is the most unnerving moments you keep encountering on a way of playing?
3. Negativity have a serious impact on your real life, exactly because...?
4. For how long you can stay away from your "object" of stress (the game)?

I'd rather stay away from my job while I'm not working. -_-

Hope you understand, cheers mate!

Thank you guys for sharing your stories. I hope the devs read them and promote a more positive experience for everyone, like an endorsement system for exemple.

Let's just simply put aside the negative "threads", I'd like you to read this closely.=)

You made the right decision by going at "social chats" to have a discussion about things that bothering you. There is always good people who can relate, there is nothing can be more best, than having a discussion with people who "were in a same skin". Even if someone can say, that "seeking help" on the internet is one way to get yourself in trouble.

Based on your answers:

Don't keep negative emotions in you my guy, when we can't do anything better with the source of "negativity" while we interract with one, people already suggested a really good ways, on the object of "how I deal with my frustration".

Someone is bashing stuff to let go (or redirect) the anger.

Someone is simply taking a brake, or playing a different game with good friends.

To me, you're inteligent enough to understand that redirecting anger and negativity on other people is one way to make yourself feel even worse.

I've seen you already made a decision on how you should treat yourself a better way, this is what matters, this is primely, based on your message here:

(You can ignore the message below, it's about "How I deal with my frustration")

Me and my colleagues, see any pvp games as a resource of satisfying our daily negatives. Interaction with subjects (their reaction on our actions) our prime goal in such games, due to that, we never getting frustrated or really angry in such games. Especially in games like Dead by daylight, when you have completely different (asymmetrical) opponents.

Understanding the principles of any PVP games (in our discussion it's - frustrating your opponent), we take any "frustrating" factor as a normal subject. There for, any subject that "trying their best" to throw or be as negative as possible towards you - completely normal occurrence.

This phenomenon serves as a strong barrier, it protects our mental state from crossing the line and further affect our daily lifes. (Even if)

You're a smart guy.=) I wish you all the besties you could get from DBD and other games. Take a good care of your mental health, treat yourself lovely.

Nothing is more important than your physical and mental health. Please take care of yourselves.

I have quit DBD for nearly a year and had many months off here and there as the toxicity of others really got to me.

Though surprisingly considering it is ultimately just a game, there is a lot to be learned from DBD and it can be applied to aspects of life that actually matter. It has helped me to be a lot better at moving on from things rather than holding grudges so I can let go easier, it also teaches humility as no matter how good you may be at some aspect there is always someone better.

It can also be a great lesson in determination and changing your mindset so negatives can give you strength when YOU find the place within that helps you overcome the surprising levels of anxiety and stress a game can induce. Trying to meet personal targets or get achievements can be a truly beneficial exercise in determination and persistence, plus it can also help you learn when it is time to wind down and maybe put something down for the meantime so you can come back to it with a clear head.

Turn the negatives into a growth opportunity

As it might be guessed with my account name, I too happen to struggle with mental health issues. And this game has both helped me and harmed me in many ways over the years. Like you, the addition of a vs Bot game mode is nothing short of an unexpected miracle, although it does need a little bit of polishing (the ability to choose the bots' survivors instead of having to reroll each time until you get lucky, and adding survivor skins that are unique like Chris and Claire Redfield, James Sunderland, etc...).

I'll admit I haven't found a method beyond that to expel the pressure and frustration of being a Killer main that keeps using suboptimal builds and is, all things considered, not that good (You can easily notice it by going through my post's history). It's hard to fight toxicity sometimes and not succumb to it.

As others have said, your mental health should always, and I mean ALWAYS, be the priority in your life. The body can simply not work if the mind is damaged, both literally and metaphorically. This post right here with the link is especially important:

As, this link has been posted and shared for years and is still relevant. I doubt that BHVR wanted to make a game that is so toxic, but the genre seems to be toxic in and of itself. Honestly if it weren't for the IPs they have, I doubt I'd still be playing. (There's literally no other video game in existence where you can play as Michael Myers, Sadako or Ghostface).

All I can tell you is to take care of yourself, although you seem to already be doing it. And never feel bad about playing against Bot if you're more comfortable with it. It can happen to me sometimes, I don't know if it does to anyone, but it's a wrong feeling. Play to have fun.

I don't know your personal life, but if its mostly dbd that is causing you problems then its time to move on from this game. Theres a lot of different genres of games out there. Maybe try some mmo's or single player games, whatever you might enjoy.

Its not worth adding unnecessary stress to your life because of a videogame.

I really hope you get better soon and, for what it's worth, I think stepping back from PvP games for however long you need is the right call for you. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who feel that they have a right to be toxic and make somebody feel worse when all that really means is they're either callous or cruel; quite often both.

Their behaviour is not a reflection on you. You did nothing wrong. This is a form of entertainment, nothing else, and if you need to restrict or limit it for your health then remember you are far more important than a video game and a game does not define you.

I wish you the best and hope you recover soon.

I'm happy for you. If you don't mind, I find that exercising can help mental health. All the pent up anger you sometimes feel is better used for something productive. Best of luck in the future.