When i'm nice to survivors as killer the game and the players punish me for it

Not sure if they're catching youre meaning when you do this. If you're going to give people a chance, do it later in the game. If you leave them on the first down they'll assume that you're slugging amd a toxic killer.

My usual pattern is I'll take the easy hooks at the start. Then late game if I down someone who's been double hooked, if they've had a bad game, then I leave them, maybe give them a nod. That way they were expecting to get sacrificed and get to play more. They know they're beat and that I made an active decision to spare them/give them more time. People *might* be more chill if you do it that way but no guarentee.

Personally I usually spare one or two people if it's an easy game.

Two situations here:

1. Survivors don't realise you're being nice and think they outplayed you. If you're getting plenty of hooks and while instapicking and splitting focus, you're likely decent enough at the game. So, because they survived, they're celebrating defeating what they believe to be a tough opponent. Maybe there's an element of nastiness in there, but there's also a good chance it's just excitement.
2. Due to the non-verbal communication in game, and the various levels of familiarity different players have with the DBD social contract, I think many people may have a misconception that your kindness is actually you being toxic. Some people see nods as gloating, some people see you leaving them downed as deliberately slugging to waste their time, even if you're trying to 8 hook before confirming kills. Hell, maybe they feel offended that you feel they needed your mercy in the first place.

Truth be told, if being a nice, rulebook-abiding killer was always a pleasant experience, more would do it. The trick to being nice is understanding it won't always be returned.

I ignore the rulebook until I start absolutely crushing, in which case I'll ease up. For example, had an attempted bully squad last night that were too aggressive when going for saves, which led to a lot of people on death hook without a single gen popped. So I eased up, ended up playing a game of impromptu red-light-green-light over a downed David as I knew at least 2 people were waiting for the save. I face away, hear the footsteps, turn to see Jane and Feng stood in the open not moving, so I turn away again, turn back and they're closer.

That David got mad in post-game chat and bagged the hell out of me after I literally gave Jane and Feng the save on purpose as a punchline to the stupid situation we were in. In the end, all I could think was "I'm sorry you weren't vibing with us, dude" instead of feeling offended.

This is not just aimed at you directly but at any killer who plays as a "Nice-Killer" sometimes referred to as a "Benevolent-Killer"

I don't understand why they/you are surprised when you dont receive thanks. Noobs actually wont know the difference, so if you are playing them forget it and MM throws a whole mix at you these days. If they are experienced they are quite likely more

annoyed than anything.

Perhaps stop trying to control the game in a way that was not intended, and play the game as intended. Some survivors actually hate "Nice" killers. Some people play for a challenge, not a free ride. For e.g. If you dont hook anyone, how can anyone do a rescue? (and thats just one example).

If you sign up to be a killer, then be a killer; otherwise, if you want to be nice to survivors, be a survivor. It makes no sense to be a nice killer. It's an oxymoron, "Nice-Killer" in fact, if you truly want to be nice, play as intended, then just let everyone go. There seems to be quite a trend since the last blood moon event, for the killer to hook everyone twice each, then let them go, when this happens, It's pretty obvious that it's the killer's intention.

You'll get the most respect from experienced survivors who you still managed to get two hooks each on without tunneling, without over-slugging (I am max one slug, pickup on second down), and without patrolling hooks. If you then let everyone go, you might get a few to drop their item at the gate or a slow-up/down cycle to say thanks before they leave. Console players can't chat at all, so don't expect them to say anything. The others will probably just say GG <3 and move on.

Being a nice killer (if it's not annoying to the survivor) at best is just an ordinary thing; it's not like you are a volunteer firefighter and rescuing babies from burning buildings lol.

You're in a game of horror and trying to be a "Nice-Killer", I worry your expectations of thanks might be a little high. Instead, try to be a "Good-Killer," and then, if you really want to, let everyone go. But whatever you do, dont just try to be a killer and hang with the survivors, it's not really "fun & engaging" after it happens hundreds of times (like it has for me). it kind of ruins the scaryness that many enjoy. For e.g., lately I keep getting ghosties that just hang out with survivors, they just bob up and down like that's their entire goal, to get everyone else doing it with them. Because I'm not interested in that, I just go do gens, I do them quickly, open the gate, and leave. How dull?! There's no challenge, no adrenaline, no thinking (other than wondering "WHY?!")

In the end, some will thank you, most wont. I mean, most people probably think it's more about you than them, sooo….. be strong and carry on <3

P.S. Set goals that please you without needing acknowledgment from anyone else and you will be a happier gamer.

This is me having fun:

being nice is a problem, you can be nice. But still you have to be killer. So i end up slugging someone who on the last hook stage if they are not doing well in the match. Giving them Hope that they can defeat me, and ended up with 2 kills and 2 escapes. They often didnt even realize that it was me who let them a draw, cuz sometimes there was meany oppertunities to end the match faster.

But im quit babysitting, so im playing more rough now. At least trying, until some swf just bonks me in the head with their UBER genrush build.