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Does anyone have that one member of their SWF group?

Bit of a personal tangent here. Do you have a friend in your group who gets tilted easily and turns into such a sore loser, bogging down the experience for you? Last night, I had that friend start getting pissy at losing two matches and spouting dumb stuff like "Killers are OP, this game is bullshit, I can't even fix one gen". He's a complete newbie to the game (less than 20 hours), so I understand him not fully grasping how the game works, but me and my BF practically coach him throughout the match. It really reached a head in our last match against Myers when he gave up on his first down. It's those sort of things that upset me more than anything in this game.


Anyway, how do you handle stuff like that? What do you say to someone?

Comments

  • dspaceman20
    dspaceman20 Member Posts: 4,699

    No I'm not sure if I have that now. But I did have that teammate in the past when I was looking for a group.

  • NoxVeno
    NoxVeno Member Posts: 177

    Should let him solo at his own rank to get a better feel for the game

  • Afius
    Afius Member Posts: 563

    Not in this game but I ran into a lot trying to get friends into fighting games.

  • QwQw
    QwQw Member Posts: 4,531

    I don't really play in a swf, but none of my friends act like this when they play this game.

  • Yords
    Yords Member Posts: 5,781

    I would just not play with someone like that at all, depending on how annoying they are with it. If they are toxic in general and say things like "haha get ****** baby killer ez" all the time, then yeah I will forget about them.

  • Aven_Fallen
    Aven_Fallen Member Posts: 16,378

    Not in DBD, but I have one friend who is like that. Gets really tilted when he loses in a game, even if it is not over at this point (e.g. we were playing Age of Mythology and he ragequit because his Villagers got killed). I know for sure that DBD would not be a game for him.

  • Kirkylad
    Kirkylad Member Posts: 1,927

    I'm surprised they're getting so tilted this early into their time with the game at 20 hours. That was the most fun for me even though I lost a lot lol.

    I don't want to say just dump them from the group because that could be quite harsh but just talk to them and just say that you'll not have fun or learn the game if you take it to seriously so just have fun with it and try your best, win or lose it doesn't matter.

    Otherwise if it carries on then the best thing may just be to stop playing with them because we play video games for fun at the end of the day, so if they're taking the fun out of the match then what's the point in even playing the game with them.

  • oxygen
    oxygen Member Posts: 3,336

    In the past? Yes, when I still did "friend of a friend of a friend" sorta lobbies where people just invited whoever. You get some people you are quite simply harshly incompatible with that way.

    Nowadays I can't remember last time I played anything else than duos, and even that is only with two different friends that seem to never be around at the same time because of their schedules. Very much prefer it that way as I actually know I get along with them.

  • CashelP14
    CashelP14 Member Posts: 5,564

    I have a mate like that. He's at probably 150 hours now and I've been coaching him as survivor. He's got to rank 8 killer so he knows the game isn't killer sided.

    He's just one of those people who will blame the game and not see what he did wrong. If he gets too annoyed then he'll just give up.

    Worst thing he does is dc then just leave his computer without telling us what's going on. He'll stay on discord and on dbd but not be there. It's a shame because it ruins the experience for the and my other mate who I'm coaching. He never apologies for it either. He just says "why do I need to always say when I'm going" or something like that.

  • Anniehere
    Anniehere Member Posts: 1,264

    The game is pretty stressful for my boyfriend and he is not having fun like i do. Unfortunately i can't play with him often because honestly the game is not always fun as a survivor.

    Not every game is for everyone. .

  • VaJaybles
    VaJaybles Member Posts: 659

    Had one from an LFG on xbox....

    Acted like a god tier looper*they weren't

    Complained that cross play is trash because of

    *More lag

    *Cheating, Pc players=cheating

    So we turn of cross play

    (Remember God looper)

    *Insta drops pallets

    *Calls the killer trash

    *Gets downed immediately afterwards

    This was almost every game and as they continue getting wrecked and getting more upset they start calling the killer racial slurs and homophobic slurs .... Dunno if she actually messaged them those things BUT I don't stand for that and left immediately.

  • Dragonshensi
    Dragonshensi Member Posts: 1,516

    Survivor is already hella easy. Anytime I play with friends it’s almost like taking candy for a killer baby. So I rarely do it

  • SammiieK1991
    SammiieK1991 Member Posts: 686

    Tell the dude to bloody chill and that he'll get better at the game! Genuinely didn't know how to do a gen when I started playing and just hid in lockers. My mates used to have a go at me so much for it. Because it was just wasting time. I explained I had no idea what I was doing, was getting so pissed off with being found in there and couldn't understand why 😂 obviously now it's like if I'm down I'm down like... 🤷‍♀️


    Just tell the person to relax and he'll get better at it the more he or she plays. They just have to chuck themselves in the deep end a bit, go for the saves and grasp the gens more. If they get decked it's not a big deal there's always another match ahead to practice with.

  • DawnMad
    DawnMad Member Posts: 1,030

    No I don't. Your friend really needs to take this game less seriously, I couldn't stand playing with a person like that after a day.

  • bm33
    bm33 Member Posts: 8,274

    It's like that when my brother, husband, and I occasionally play swf with our 13 year old nephew. He'll be like "the killer ALWAYS tunnels me!" when it's his first chase after we've all kept the killer occupied for couple of hooks worth of chases. Every killer is "I hate this killer, they're so unfair and op!" He runs Bond and will purposely lead killer to others when in a chase but if someone accidentally runs killer by him because he's randomly hanging out by a completed gen he'll say they did it on purpose. Killer is cheating when they find his Blendette hiding in corner. 😂

    If you really want to play with him I'd suggest doing some KYF where you all take turns as killer, including him, so he can see what it's like from killers perspective without being demolished by 4SWF but also you guys can coach him through what he's doing wrong as survivor from killers perspective.

  • HectorBrando
    HectorBrando Member Posts: 3,167

    Not in this game for my friends dont play it but at DOTA2 a friend of a friend started raging so hard and insulting everyone with such strong words that 2 of us decided that was the last game we would play with that person ever again, his friend understoond and told us we were right.

  • malloymk
    malloymk Member Posts: 1,555

    It's usually me. Well honestly we all are sore losers, but I'd say I'm probably the sorest of losers. That said we just stopped playing with each other. Partly because I can be a dick, partly because I would get annoyed hearing "ugh I'm dying on my first hook". Yeah, I guess you should take some aggro once in a while.

    But to be fair, I can be an #########.

    But yeah, have that person take some edible marijuana. That will help.

  • _NIGHTMARE_
    _NIGHTMARE_ Member Posts: 727

    This is why I go solo.

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 5,229

    We had someone like that, they have been banned from our discord.

    We did however keep them around a bit as a social experiment, where we reported their behavior ourselves a few times- they never recieved a ban for any of their behavior. That's how I learned how useless reporting was.

    Apparently telling people to kill themselves, ######### off and die, racism, etc....is not enough to warrant actions.

  • Mysterynovus
    Mysterynovus Member Posts: 318

    Reading all these comments, I'm definitely gonna take a break from playing DbD (or any other PvP game) with him and talk with him about this behavior. He's not toxic, per se, doesn't use derogatory language or anything. He's just an awful sport and even worse sore loser. It bummed me and my boyfriend out and we really love playing DbD together, so it stuck with me. I do appreciate your responses though.

  • JinSime
    JinSime Member Posts: 405

    I do have a friend that gets tilted out of nothing (I'd say I have 2 friends, but this other girl is not my friend, I just know her from other friends and rarely play with her).

    I don't usually say much. Sometimes I give advices like "when this happens, try to do this and that... and it's just a game". But by then he just leaves to play something else and we may do the same thing, since the goal is to have fun together. He's very good at looping, but lacks a bit of sense sometimes in other areas. And he gets frustrated quite easily when he wants to show something and fail (I guess that's the problem).

    Since your friend is new, maybe the game is not really for him. I don't think you should stick around if all you do is stress out from the game: that's unhealthy.

  • dnj510
    dnj510 Member Posts: 438

    Before, yes, played with a guy that got tilted easily. In fact, this happened with a few different people.

    These days, I play by myself. Really hard for me to find one other chill person that doesn't mind losing once in a while.