I decided to be nice (rant)

I'm starting with the man in the mirror

I'm asking him to change his ways

And no message could've been any clearer

If they wanna make the world a better place

Take a look at yourself and then make a change

Most survivors who play this game are like this, sadly. Expect to be disappointed a lot in your "play nice" quest.

Once I've even had a survivor tbag me after I gave him hatch.

But still some survivors will recognize it and play nice in return (althoug rare).

in the doubt i'll punch everyone since they ARE a team (their goal is the same: escape from the trial) and if i wanna make the bad ones pay for their actions i need to play for the win, the only difference will be that the bad ones will also see me nodding and hitting them on the hook just to get more salt as possible while the good ones will be limited only to the unfun gameplay... the one that weren't toxic can always stay in the end chat and chilling with a conversation... as survivor i already met killers that were toxic or played in a certain way, but once i talked with them in the endchat they were even sorry for playing like this because they saw that i'm not the classic survivor that will blame without even thinking WHY the killer played in that way (for instance i had people flaming me for playing fair so at this point it's perfectly understandable) while as a killer i still have to see a survivor that will do something like that if you want to try to have a civil discussion with them

Treating other decently in a video game is not the same as giving them candy either.

Im sure you understand what I mean behind my metaphor.

It was a bad punch, try a candy?

That's a reflection of them not you. Sure kindness being rewarded with kindness is great, it's just and it's fair. But we don't live in a world where any of those things are a given, in fact quite the opposite. Often times crudeness, perversion of justice and selfishness gets the most in measurable quantities.

With that in mind being kind is a personal choice. If you're choosing to be that way, then why? What are you getting out of it? What do you want to see out of it? What would make kindness rewarding to you? Do you want to see the game take on that quality and pass along the good vibes? Do you want to feel good about yourself because the alternative makes you feel ugly? Do you do it because you're being considerate and want everyone to have a good time? Are you choosing kindness to shield yourself from the admonishment of your peers?

If you have to doubt your kindness reflect on it. Why are you doing it? Why are you picking kind behavior? And if you're not getting what you want from being kind then why continue to do it? It's obviously causing frustration.

Don't get discouraged by a single game, as you got quite unlucky.

I tend to play overly fair, and the vast majority of the time it is well appreciated. Especially if I start off the chat saying I had fun and praising something they did, like maybe one save I didn't see coming or one of them was a great looper. (Naturally, only if the team was not bm-ing during the game)

With the team you got, you probably wouldn't have had the time because they were set on being asses, but I've found survivors often linger a little bit in the endgame screen to see if anyone says anything, and once they see you're not ggez-ing them, they're usually pretty nice !

Works as well when you get wiped too. I'll say something like "Well, that was a curbstomp ! Amazing work guys !" and then chat with them to debrief the game. I actually found a coach this way, who's now become a very close friend. =D

(At least that's my experience)

(I also do the same as survivor to similar results, if a little rarer because I praise only fair killers and those are usually the quiet "gg and move on" type)

Don't let the individual toxic people stop you from playing like that. Egc is mad toxic, and often survs you killed will get extra mad if you farm with/release survs after you kill them. Example I had one person get super mad after I killed them and then let 2 others go. I'd already killed one player and got the other 2 on 2 hooks each. No sign of the one player, then i found them and tunneled them hard to kill them. They died late game with 1 gen left and they got plenty of bp. They were furious and got friends to message, harass and report me for cheating, which didn't work obvs.

I play on xbox so I'm spared from the egc toxicity. And most of my interactions via DMs with other xbox users, aside from a few very notable exceptions, (see above) are actually pretty good.

I just gear my play towards how the survs play, if they do badly I'll chill, spread my hooks and once the game is definitely mine communicate I'm friendly and usually let 1 or 2 go. If they gen rush, then I will sweat in return , if they are toxic, I will hard tunnel & facecamp them out of the game once they are down and nod them right up into the sky.

Pls OP don't let the toxic ######### change your attitude, punish them personally if you can but don't take out your frustrations on players who haven't done anything to deserve it. The game needs more killers who chill a little and don't sweat 4ks by tunneling and camping at 4 gens. I used to play like that early on and it's stressful. But now I get the challenge and fun interactions with survs once they realise I'm letting them go.

This thread here is a prime example of why I left the game over a year ago and despite having played since it's release still have less than 400 hours in it.

Being nice by nature or choice has its limits when all you get is indifference or alternatively crap for it.

From my anecdotal experience positive feedback is about as rare or even more rare than open toxicity. But the general feedback is either empty or only comes after games where you as the killer felt like crap getting stomped.

And don't you ever dare to say to openly admit that the round felt like crap for you as the killer, that might turn even the GG into open toxicity, i speak from experience here.