Am I being a spoiled brat?

EDIT: off-topic, I completely misread OP's post lol.

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Yes I think "sad" is the right word to describe the survivor situation.

I genuinely don't understand how people can play soloQ in its current state. Between slugging, teammates giving up at 5 gens, and the honestly disturbing amount of griefers on killer now (who will eg. watch your character bleed out for 4 minutes). The game has always been unfair. But now it's just savage. Even when you are not playing against an actual psychopath, it feels like you spend more time in loading screens and watching slugging/death animations of your character than actually playing it. So many times you are put in a losing situation within the first 30 sec of the match, and then you spend 10 minutes just waiting for your death, hoping for the next match to be better, but it won't be. Depressing.

I used to main only survivor around 2021. When the devs shifted towards 60% killrate, I started playing killer thinking they would eventually revert it. Since they didn't, I have almost never played survivor again, and I've become sort of a killer main now. I think the killer experience is a lot more fun than survivor, but you have to approach it with the right mindset. I don't play sweaty at all, try to 12-hooks when possible, and often let a survivor go when something funny happen, which is surprisingly common. Even with meme-y builds, I rarely lose, and the experience is generally chill (not to say it's always like that- more about it later), also survivors usually understand I've been playing nicely and don't trashtalk in endgame. I truly believe this was the dev vision for the 60% killrate.

Regularly, I play against survivor streamers, and I watch the VOD afterwards looking for funny clips. But then, I keep watching their stream, and I realize how miserable the rest of their matches actually are. They face comp killers every game, teammates giving up every game, killers griefing them. I've seen a small streamer who played in an adorable way (tried to gather items under the Christmas tree on Ormond) get forced by the killer to do all 5 gens alone while the killer was holding her hostage through a bot. I've seen Skermz get bled out on stream, at least ten times. That's 5000+ viewers watching their streamer do nothing for 4 full minutes while the killer watches them like a psychopath. Usually, the streamers can cover this and make it funny because of their personality, but you can tell how depressing it must be for someone who plays this game alone.

As I grow older, I realize time is very valuable, and you shouldn't spend it on a video game UNLESS it's for a very good one. SoloQ in DBD, is not just unfun, it is depressing: so you are basically wasting your time, to get depressed - totally backwards. This is even more backwards that there will be people giving questionable advice like "you need 2k hours to be a good player at this game" - dude no, the goal is to have fun now, not to sink your life in DBD to have a chance to have fun later, otherwise this is borderline addiction.

On the other hand there's something important to acknowledge. Playing killer for years made me realize the game can also be hard for killers, and you can actually be put in helpless situations on killer, too. The 4-man SWFs who send you to Azarov are not a myth, they DO exist, albeit rare: but the same way that as survivor, you face some comp-wannabes Nurses who want to go for 4ks every match, there will be players like this on the survivor side.

This is why "Us vs. Them" is usually counterproductive, as both sides can be 2 sides of the same coin, and you will miss half the story if you only play one side. For example, survivors get bled out for 4 minutes, so they come on the forum complaining about "slugging" - and rightfully so -, but most killer players do not bleed out survivors, so from their perspective "slugging" means occasionally leaving a survivor for 1 minute on the ground - and they argue against it, rightfully so. We have two sides disagreeing, each only sees their perspective, and they don't even realize that they argue about something different. Instead, to fix bleedouts, my suggestion would be to simply allow survivors to give up after spending a minute on the ground. I don't know if it will fix the bleedout issue entirely, but it's a simple solution that 90% players will agree on, survivors AND killers, much more productive.

As a whole though, these "helpless" situations, while they do exist on the killer side too, are incomparably more common on the survivor side, and specifically in soloQ. In particular, I suspect most griefers play on the killer side for simple practical reasons: because griefing on the survivor side would require 3 friends who are like them, and would annoy only 1 person, so it is literally 16x less efficient than doing it on the killer side.

No, it's fine to have preference over which role you want to play.

I guess I misread it, lol.

If you miss the double negation in the first sentence it gives "I'm a survivor main, only reason I play survivor is the rewards and tomes" then the rest of the post seems like he's depressed. Guess I'll leave that here since a forum, but yeah, not my proudest moment

Are you a "spoiled brat" for thinking this? Of course not! Is it "sad" to feel you are forced into the role you don't like? No, it's not.

The reason it's varied is to allow people to experience both roles and diversify the game. Playing the Killer role often improves playing Survivor and vice versa, because you get to see the weaknesses and strengths in finer detail. It also allows players to understand what it's like to play both sides, which expands on mechanical understanding, as well as maybe empathise with the other side. Playing one side only doesn't give that.

Likewise, I can empathise with the frustration of feeling your missing out on rewards because of this. Regarding Tomes though, it's clear you should be playing the appropriate Killer to earn entries regarding those Killers. It's rewarding those who want to experiment or go out of their comfort zone. However, to reiterate, you are not a spoilt brat for wanting this, so don't do yourself down. :)

You can play the entire tome ignoring every single killer-challenges if you don't want to do them, of course that's only if you don't want the story pieces. Outside of the story you don't have to do the killer-challenges because you have way, way too much time for the tome, you can do it easily with normal ep.

The only exception are event cosmetics, you have to do them for the killer-cosmetics and for the currency of the event to buy the other cosmetics sometimes.

I wouldn't call it "right", but necessary.

I feel the same way about playing survivor. I'll muscle through some challenges but I don't like it. Considering that 80% of players need to play as a survivor for a match to start though, I do think it makes sense to push people into playing as a survivor through tome challenges. I don't think it really makes sense the other way around though. But it would be extremely painful if all tome challenges were survivor only for players like me. But it's not like you need to finish all the challenges to get through a rift thankfully.