How do you guys brush off toxic comments post game?
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Recently I had this match were I just needed to mori someone for a daily but the person I did was extremely toxic post game and I've been playing less ever since. I really do love the game and developers but some survivors really just do kill my mood.
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I'm a bit of a sadist, so having my actions in game (not even toxic ones btw) proven by endgame chat to be emotionally hurting people irl is an immense turn on for me. I imagine them crying, slamming keyboards, punching their screens, screaming at the game etc, and I can't help but feel a huge rush when they let it all out in chat. If they escalate it to death threats, racist/homophobic/antisemitic slurs, then the rush gets even better as I hit the report button knowing that the in-game chat logs are saved and can be viewed by the devs, meaning an inevitable ban is likely in their future (which will hurt the pathetic loser(s) even more). If however I'm just not in the mood that day (like when i'm just focusing on getting points during 2x point events) I just close the chat and play on in peace. Obviously however, not everyone can be a sadist like me, and so I have some advice for that:
No one deserves abuse for playing a game, especially playing it well, and while some like myself thrive on it, it admittedly can go too far. In those moments either keeping the chat closed, or reporting the turds and shrugging it off is typically the best medicine. The biggest thing to remember when playing is that if you win and did nothing toxic like abuse the games mechanics/bugs to do so, then it's not you they are really mad at, its their own performance during the match and the games legal mechanics (the mori system in your case), and they're just taking out their frustrations on you to make themselves feel better. It's very pathetic, and often times hilarious how they can get so worked up on a game that they take the time after the match to vomit up a slurry of mindless anger on their keyboards to express their obvious insecurities.
You did nothing wrong, and the game not only allowed what you did, but it encouraged it. There's no reason you should feel bad about it, and the person who slammed you with their filth doesn't have a case against you. They were just unlucky to be the one you mori'd, and took it in poor sportsmanship like an over entitled brat. If they said anything truly nasty, then by all means report them, shrug it off for what it is, have a laugh about it and close the chat to play on in peace if it bothers you.
Its posts like this one that make me want to remind people of the only "Unwritten Rules" I believe everyone should have in mind when playing this game (feel free to skip the rest of my comment if you've already heard all of this before):
1 - Play how you want to play and enjoy the game.
2 - Respect is akin to Newtons 3rd law: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Ergo, if you show no respect, don't expect any.
3 - The Killers role is to kill, the Survivors is to survive... Both by any means necessary. Hate the game, not the player.
4 - When the gates are powered... Anything goes.
5 - You paid money for a multiplayer experience, and thus aren't entitled to win every match. Anyone who takes umbrage to this should stick to single-player games where-in you are entitled to win for the money you paid. Being salty because of a lost match is unbecoming, embarrassingly juvenile, and toxic to the communities reputation. We're all people pitting our skills, strategies, and knowledge against each-other. If you lose and have nothing good to say: Leave a "gg," calm down/lick your wounds, and move onto the next match.
6 - (For PC players anyways) Post game chat can be closed using the ">>" in the lower right of the chat box, and will remain closed until you either open it again or restart the game. No one deserves abuse, so if you find yourself frustrated over excessive endgame chat toxicity: Just close it, and continue enjoying the game in peace.
7 - This is a 4v1 Lobby and Match style Multiplayer game. When you queue up to play a match you are committing to seeing it through so that everyone can enjoy the game, and everyone else who queued up is depending on your commitment to the match in order to experience said enjoyment. The acceptable reasons for Intentionally Disconnecting from a match are as follows:
- A Game breaking bug rendering you incapable of playing a normal match.
- A Player(s) taking the game hostage/hacking/exploiting bugs or game mechanics/bullying or griefing you. (Report these ones after leaving the match)
- Influences and situations outside of the game that make your disconnection unavoidable in order to deal with said circumstances.
Disconnecting from a match intentionally for any other reason is a practice in bad sportsmanship that Ruins the experience for all other players. Disconnecting over petty reasons doesn't do anything other than piss off everyone else, and makes you a worse player for it since you don't learn how to play any better by quitting. Too many DC's from too many players can also result in leaving the community as a whole with a sour experience, and could eventually kill the game we love. If you are frustrated with how a match is going; Take it in stride as a learning experience, see it through to the end, take a break, and decide if you want to queue up for another match. We all bought this game in order to play it with others despite how each match goes, and the majority of the fun this game offers is in the variation of each individual match.
Don't be a petty DC'er.
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A) Turn off post game chat.
B) Embrace the salt
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Why not disable it?
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Just ignore endgame chat altogether.
Once the match comes to an end, just hit the leave button. There’s no need to put ‘gg’ or anything else, just ignore whatever comes and be on your way. I’ve been doing it and I feel fine ever since then.
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I love the post game chat. I laugh my lungs out at the insults of those entitled babies. Have fun there too. Remind them who is boss! ;-)
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Report and move on. Sometimes you can laugh really hard after seeing how "toxic" you are for using game mechanics
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I tend to laugh it off and move on. Someone going all red in the face and typing in all caps hundreds of miles away from me doesn't make my day any worse unless I let it. If someone gets that worked up over a video game, that's a them problem, not a me problem. If it's particularly bad, be sure to report it and we'll take care of it.
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It's hard to get it out of your head. The way I deal with it is by taking a break. Just a couple days staying off the game can really help you disassociate some negativity from it.
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When you've played online games for long enough it sort of stops being anything special. I rarely remember anything for long unless it's particularly creative (the arguably funny sort of trash talking) or if someone turns into a red-hot ball of uncontrollable rage and straight up breaks rules with death threats/encouragements and the like. In which case you just report and move on.
It doesn't excuse the behavior in any way, and while I know it's not quite like that for everyone I have MANY years of desensitization behind me and it worked out that way for me 😄
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Depends on what it is.
Racial/homophobic/ etcetera slur? I report and thank them for the free ban.
Complaining about gameplay? Inquire what situation they were referring and see if there was something "I" saw that they could have done differently.
General toxicity? Depends of the quality and the amount of dickishness behind it. Absolute dick, gg and next game. Obviously in comedic taste, attempt to play along. Absolutely PATHETIC attempt, openly critique their feeble attempts to mock me complete with grammar corrections and actual things to mock that are witty. Looking at you person whose most scathing thing they could come up with was "Khroal the Dumbass Bomber." I'm in mortal agony at how potent that blow you struck me with truly was...
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I just send them "Enough salt for fries or we done here?"
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Got called a camper the other day as if camping isn't a legit strategy and I'm supposed to leave the area when I see someone skulking around in the bushes. I replied with "a happy little camper"...
As the advice previous if you can play off their name or whatever they say. If they want to be mad let them.
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Crocodile tears to bait them into saying enough horrible things to get them banned. :P
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From curious side. Do you can ban them by yourself Peanits?
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I could, but I tend not to unless it's something really bad. I'll typically just laugh it off or tell them, "Hey, you probably shouldn't be saying that." I've seen a lot worse.
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What is the worst thing you have seen to memory?
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Embrace it and give it right back to them.... one of the best ones is to just say... ez
that seems to piss people off the most.
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If he said it he'd probably get banned on his own forum.
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In your place, I would ban every toxic person without blinking an eye lol
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I've closed the chat and I'll never open it again.
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That's probably why you're not a moderator? 😅 I can't even imagine having that power but not using it, takes a lot of willpower.
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I play on ps4... thats an easy salt dodge there.
And if the guy creates a group and adds me to it so he can express how angry I made him.
I block him there and move on
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I usually type GG and wait for them to find something to complain about, if they don't I also put WP there and leave, if they do I laugh and leave)
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Don’t listen to them, drop a GG<3 and leave.
That’s what I do.
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Salty/toxic people are worth laughing at, rather than taking to heart. As long as you aren't a dick, like tunneling off the first hook for that mori, you know you're just better than them. Take it as a compliment that people without anything to show for themselves outside the game are investing their time and energy just for you :3
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I just keep responding with "cry".
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When I played, I closed the chat box and never opened it again. I also have my Steam profile completely private, but I did that even before I bought DbD.
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I ussually do either on killer or surviver side though i see more survivers being toxic then killers i just assume there salty because of a previous round they lost to though i am older and dont take a loss badly though i feel if there really stressed that much they should really take a break from it instead of just snapping back
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I only had an ebony mori as gf and felt bad because I don't like moris but hooked 3 people once and didn't really try to win. I only wanted the mori but wasn't a dick about it and played very badly. I guess just the constant reply from that survivor to keep telling me to "#########" while having my own problems with depression just really isn't sitting well with me atm but I just can't still shake it off.
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Be more toxic than them, simply leave a "GGEZ" then leave. It will make them about 10X madder than before and you can laugh to your heart's desire as you know they are now saltier than the old fries at the bottom of a McDonalds bag.
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Honestly this made me a bit teary eye thank you so much.
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Please if it's that bad, take a break from the game and distract yourself.
Don't let people get to you, try to be positive and to enjoy the game for what it is and if it's hard for you, close the postgame chat, close your comment section and ignore what people say.
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On console someone used the friend request to send a salty message and i had things set at ignore because i didnt save him because i was the only one there and there was noed lol
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I close the chat, or if it's open I just leave immediately after the match ends, ain't nobody got time for that....
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Buddy, it's impossible to be positive even in real life. The amount of toxic people that I've met in my job is insane.
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I just agree to everything they say. Like this:
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I have play... I bet 70% of my matches as killer (maybe a bit more).
Mostly I have just play for fun, so I had only a small amount of possible toxicity in my endgame chat, but sometimes toxicity had of course also by me come up.
And then I have just remind the survivor/s, that he/they had on me a friendly killer and that I could have play differently (aka. that I could have camp the area around the hook, or tunnel everyone down, or using frenzy and deep wounds more often [I played mostly pre patch Legion, so aka. I have play the Legion to a time where those abilities were stronger as today and a possible threat for surivors]).
That was most times enough, so that they have start thinking. In the small cases where that was not the case, I have either just leave (and with it end) the lobby, or lol at him, or in 1 case aggressively talk him down, but in the last case I was already in a bad mood before I started the match, so that was not my usual behavior.
But not important what had happend in my endgame chat, I was never in a bad mood because of it. On the other hand, I have a pretty thick skin. After more as a decade in the internet, it just grows thicker and thicker :).
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Maybe that's even good that I'm not a mod XD
3/4 of community would be banned lmao
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Depending on which community you are, you also would need to write every banned person a email, or write a special thread about the ban in a special forum why he/she got banned.
That I can tell you from my experience... So maybe that could hold you back if you have in mind, that you have to write 100x emails, or 100x threads, if you ban 100x people, so that each person you have banned know why he/she got banned ;) :).
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That was joke but okay <3
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Glad to help!
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People only get anything out of salt/toxicity if they're targeting people who don't partake. If you're not toxic yourself, then just play to the best of your ability and know that you did so - other people's approval and opinions don't matter if you know you're not personally being a douche.
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I could, but naturally then you get accused of abusing your power. If they're directing it at me, it's gotta' be really bad for me to step in. I'd rather tell them not to do it again and hope they learn, because at least then they can't say I didn't warn them.
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I enjoy the fact that they spend this much time coming up with pointless insults and banter to try to throw me off, for some reason I just find it funny.
I leave my steam profile open on-purpose. To not only hear what they have to stay, but to try to understand.
My personal favorite are people with private profiles, they comment willy nilly, but are to insecure to allow others to ask them why they think that of you.
All in all, it's a pretty one way street for toxic players. They say what they want, take what they want to hear from your words, and try to twist them. It's honestly impressive the amount of dedication.
But what you need to ask yourself is this. Why do you care? Why are you concerning yourself, with the poor mental condition of a complete stranger? Someone who can't fathom the simplest idea of reason or common-sense?
Why does it bother you, to the point of concern. To go as so far to make a post about it?
Why bother? Because by asking, means they have gotten to you. And by that, you've already lost. And so, I leave you with this bit of advice.
TL:DR Just ignore them
Not easy I know. But there really is no way to tell you how to, for I am not you. Everyone thinks differently, which is why there are so various replies, each different, but some with their similarities.
But maybe that's just me.
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Ignore it?
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Well when i get camped and tunneled and they message me something rude I say “ Aaaaaaawwwwwww how cute. A baby (Insert Killer’s that camped and tunneled)” and they get mad lol
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Don't get me wrong, I 100% agree with you, but a lot of these people saying terrible things in post game chat will try to spin it as "dev abusing their powers", and then learn nothing from it because they're convinced they were wrongly banned.
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