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Respect Your Fellow Fog Travelers!

NMCKE
NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
in General Discussions
Hello, my name is Nick and I'd like to give a speech about what I been seeing in this community as well as my personal experience.

WHAT I BEEN SEEING IN THIS COMMUNITY:

I seen so much insults that I'm about this close from not getting on the DBD forums ever again. Seriously, guys and girls, people don't need to be insulted, you are so much better than that! People may have harsh lifes or may be having a bad day and they get on DBD forums to see that they got an insult... How do you think that makes the person feel? Seriously you may not think about it but words can be just as damaging as actions if not more! Please just think twice about the things you say because you can actually make their day that much worse.

HOW TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON:

I know that everyone won't be nice, there will always be people who are just simply jerks. Here are some ways to improve yourself and make this community a more comfortable place for your fog travelers. Hopefully this will reduce the amount of toxicity in this community, please read!

1.) Give polite feedback and don't say things like "Your suggestion is garbage!" "This idea is bad!" "Wow, what a stupid idea!"

Sometimes telling the OP why their suggestion is bad can help out. Remember, it's okay to dislike someone's idea but make sure that you explain why you disagree! This is a discussion after all! :)

2.) If you are upset, don't say anything at all!

There are some times where someone posted a RIDICULOUS thread that makes you wanna go bananas but just don't! Remember, that person could be new to the game or they are just trying to help! If you go bananas on them for sharing something, they might not wanna share anymore ideas! The DBD forums is a place where your supposed to be open and share your imagination with the forums, not the opposite!

3.) Add compliments! <3

Seriously, a word can do so much damage to a person but it can also do wonders! Many times I would have a bad day but someone would tell me something like "Great job! Your ideas are great!" That right there made my day that much better! It can do the same to others, don't be afraid to say that their idea is great... Even if it's bad sometimes.

That's all, hopefully this community will be that much better! :) If you have any tips on how to become a better person, leave them below and please, no, hate mail, seriously it's needed! Thanks!

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  • Iceman
    Iceman Member Posts: 1,457
    Thanks for taking the time to create this. Spread the positivity. 

    The most problematic thing that I see on this forum is that people assume based on their game experience that the majority of survivors/killers act whatever way that they are complaining about. Basically projecting onto other people who many not have any clue 

    I think people should go find something else to occupy their minds when they have a hard time on a game instead of just lashing out on each other. 

    Why so serious? 8-)
  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388
    @chemical_reject would you like to be a better person? 
  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    fcc2014 said:
    Why do i feel like i have shut my door on you when you came by with your pamphlets?
    I know that my suggestions are sometimes bad and I'm very sorry, I'm not perfect. However I want this community to be more accepting and more forgiving for people who do make bad suggestions... They are human too!
  • chemical_reject
    chemical_reject Member Posts: 940
    fcc2014 said:
    @chemical_reject would you like to be a better person? 
    Lmao sounds like a cult. 
  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    ProfoundEnding said:
    I just want to see all the "git gud" comments dissappear. Most childish statement that I find on these forums.
    Yes, I agree!
  • DepravedKiller
    DepravedKiller Member Posts: 182

    ..

  • Zanfer
    Zanfer Member Posts: 647

    Usually if I see something and I disagree that is my own opinion, but I don't need to post about it if someone is already disagreeing cause it just would waste my time. I love giving people the time of day to say what they need to say cause everyone is a person.

  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 0

    once people start getting ban then things will change until then, it' the wild fog son

  • Mr_Jay_Stark
    Mr_Jay_Stark Member Posts: 539
    I just want to say don’t leave the forums I’ve seen your posts and they are VERY creative! You have some great ideas that I wish were considered!

    But don’t let the toxicity win! You once made a post about spreading positivity and I remember seeing a good amount of comments on there even not queen herself said we need more people like you! 

    But if it ever very becomes too much take a break and then come back! But don’t give up be that ray of hope the community needs!  :)
  • ShrimpTwiggs
    ShrimpTwiggs Member Posts: 1,181
    edited August 2018

    I'm in complete support of making this community better but as much as I support this, I don't think much will change. Toxicity kind of just comes with games like this.

  • ChraizE
    ChraizE Member Posts: 232

    Just report them if they are saying horrible things. Eventually those kind of players will be gone for good.

  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @chemical_reject don't drink the kool aid.

  • Boss
    Boss Member Posts: 13,616

    It's hard for me to be nice when they're the opposite of nice, i'm not a make the first move guy.
    And no, that's not me saying i'm being the opposite of nice as well, that's just me saying i'm not nice.

    has chat closed as a standard

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    Boss said:

    It's hard for me to be nice when they're the opposite of nice, i'm not a make the first move guy.
    And no, that's not me saying i'm being the opposite of nice as well, that's just me saying i'm not nice.

    has chat closed as a standard

    Usually when someone is aggressive to me or they doesn't give me good feedback, I'll tell them give me proper feedback and if they are aggressive, I'll tell them to drop their attitude.
  • chemical_reject
    chemical_reject Member Posts: 940
    fcc2014 said:

    @chemical_reject don't drink the kool aid.

    Can I have the Nikes at least?
  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @Nickenzie said:

    I know that my suggestions are sometimes bad and I'm very sorry, I'm not perfect. However I want this community to be more accepting and more forgiving for people who do make bad suggestions... They are human too!

    I don't think everyone needs a pat on the back even if they didn't earn it. Have you never faced criticism? It is just a game and this is just a forum.

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    edited August 2018
    fcc2014 said:

    I don't think everyone needs a pat on the back even if they didn't earn it. Have you never faced criticism? It is just a game and this is just a forum.

    I'm just gonna call you out and say that mindset that you have right there is the reason why so many people are toxic here. You think it's just a "forum" but your so oblivious to your surroundings! People are getting hurt here, people are scared to even post a single suggestion because they will get bombed by others saying "Nice stupid suggestion!" "Wow, garbage thread!" "Nice trash thread!" You need to understand the difference between polite criticism and harmful criticism, seriously because I hate seeing others getting hurt. I wish that you could say the same tho... :-1:

    Edit: I don't wanna talk to you.
  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @Nickenzie said:

    Edit: I don't wanna talk to you.

    Ummm ok sounds good! It is just a forum unless we have some underlying Illuminati stuff going on here. If you don't like what someone says ignore them. don't read anything they post. The game is toxic, have you seen threads after proposed changes, how about pc vs console, survivor vs killer? Not everyone gets along. Other than attacking someones race , sexual orientation or threatening them , calling someone out for posting something outrageous(killers need a nerf, survivors need a buff) doesn't seem like a big deal. Not everyone needs a trophy and a hug.

  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388
    chemical_reject said:

    Dude I'm gonna have to call u out now. We are all adults as this game is Rated M so I should not and WILL not treat anyone in game or on this forum with "kid gloves"  
    I'm starting to think that this is a bait thread and not genuine. I can't imagine anyone being this naive. 
  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    edited August 2018
    chemical_reject said:
    Dude I'm gonna have to call u out now. We are all adults as this game is Rated M so I should not and WILL not treat anyone in game or on this forum with "kid gloves"  
    Yeah I get it, you two are clearly cyber bullies. It's whatever tho, I tried telling you that your actions do affect people but you wouldn't care.
  • Vietfox
    Vietfox Member Posts: 3,823
    Nickenzie said:
    chemical_reject said:
    Dude I'm gonna have to call u out now. We are all adults as this game is Rated M so I should not and WILL not treat anyone in game or on this forum with "kid gloves"  
    Yeah I get it, you two are clearly cyber bullies. It's whatever tho, I tried telling you that your actions do affect people but you wouldn't care.
    Lol cyber bullies? I think chemical has been quite respectful, even with people who clearly posted dumb ######### and deserved worse.
  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    edited August 2018
    Vietfox said:
    Lol cyber bullies? I think chemical has been quite respectful, even with people who clearly posted dumb ######### and deserved worse.
    Your definition of "respectful" is wrong then because he clearly doesn't care about who he hurts. Additionally who cares about what people post! That still doesn't justify being a complete jerk to them, I think this forum is long gone!
  • Mrrgle_the_Mediocre
    Mrrgle_the_Mediocre Member Posts: 346

    Maybe it's just me but if somebody calls me gay over the internet I'm not about to cry.

    But I guess maybe other people would so whatever.

  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @Nickenzie i posted the great job you wanted on your wall. I want you to feel better about yourself and not victimized by the cyber bullies.

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    fcc2014 said:

    @Nickenzie i posted the great job you wanted on your wall. I want you to feel better about yourself and not victimized by the cyber bullies.

    I never asked that tho, don't get me wrong I appreciate that! :) However just in general, try to be more nicer to people because it can do a lot! :+1:
  • Vietfox
    Vietfox Member Posts: 3,823
    Nickenzie said:
    Vietfox said:
    Lol cyber bullies? I think chemical has been quite respectful, even with people who clearly posted dumb ######### and deserved worse.
    Your definition of "respectful" is wrong then because he clearly doesn't care about who he hurts. Additionally who cares about what people post! That still doesn't justify being a complete jerk to them, I think this forum is long gone!
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.
    Who cares about what people post? There have been some salt mining attempts like this one: https://forum.deadbydaylight.com/en/discussion/10761/i-tried-having-a-nice-conversation-with-the-survivors/p1
    And obviously is way better to stop this than single comments.
  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.
    Who cares about what people post? There have been some salt mining attempts like this one: https://forum.deadbydaylight.com/en/discussion/10761/i-tried-having-a-nice-conversation-with-the-survivors/p1
    And obviously is way better to stop this than single comments.
    I mean yeah but I just ignore those types of threads. It's not worth my time, remember?
    Nickenzie said:
    2.) If you are upset, don't say anything at all!

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    Mrrgle_the_Mediocre said:

    Maybe it's just me but if somebody calls me gay over the internet I'm not about to cry.

    But I guess maybe other people would so whatever.

    However not everyone is like you, take that into consideration.
  • chemical_reject
    chemical_reject Member Posts: 940
    Nickenzie said:
    Vietfox said:
    Lol cyber bullies? I think chemical has been quite respectful, even with people who clearly posted dumb ######### and deserved worse.
    Your definition of "respectful" is wrong then because he clearly doesn't care about who he hurts. Additionally who cares about what people post! That still doesn't justify being a complete jerk to them, I think this forum is long gone!
    It's never my intent to "hurt". It's not my fault people get so fragile over everything. 
  • Visionmaker
    Visionmaker Member Posts: 2,051
    You're so cheesey that you deserve the upvote.
  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @chemical_reject said:

    It's never my intent to "hurt". It's not my fault people get so fragile over everything. 

    ahem just saying

  • NMCKE
    NMCKE Member Posts: 8,243
    chemical_reject said:
    It's never my intent to "hurt". It's not my fault people get so fragile over everything. 
    I know but you know, try and be kind! Sugar is often underrated!
  • chemical_reject
    chemical_reject Member Posts: 940
    Nickenzie said:
    chemical_reject said:
    It's never my intent to "hurt". It's not my fault people get so fragile over everything. 
    I know but you know, try and be kind! Sugar is often underrated!
    I will be kind when kindness is due but otherwise u can refer to my "kid gloves" comment. 
  • fcc2014
    fcc2014 Member Posts: 4,388

    @chemical_reject said:

    I will be kind when kindness is due but otherwise u can refer to my "kid gloves" comment. 

    You are a far better man than me. I'm not going to baby anyone. If you can't take a little criticism about your opinion maybe don't share it. If you are too sensitive and someone may make you feel bad.. We are all still talking about a forum for a video game we all play correct?

  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @fcc2014 said:

    @chemical_reject said:

    I will be kind when kindness is due but otherwise u can refer to my "kid gloves" comment. 

    You are a far better man than me. I'm not going to baby anyone. If you can't take a little criticism about your opinion maybe don't share it. If you are too sensitive and someone may make you feel bad.. We are all still talking about a forum for a video game we all play correct?

    yeah . I just ask that a person be respectfull to me and i will be to them (if i was not respectfull the first time ASSUME IT was an accidental part in my case please).

    I DONT CARE WHAT SIDE OF A GAME YOU PLAY EITHER (sorry for caps).

  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @chemical_reject said:
    Nickenzie said:


    chemical_reject said:
    It's never my intent to "hurt". It's not my fault people get so fragile over everything. 

    I know but you know, try and be kind! Sugar is often underrated!

    I will be kind when kindness is due but otherwise u can refer to my "kid gloves" comment. 

    Same but i wont resort to lower myself to the same level of an insulter.

  • Orion
    Orion Member Posts: 21,675

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Im not sure whether to be sad or agreeing with you.

  • Vietfox
    Vietfox Member Posts: 3,823
    Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Ok, from now on i'm gonna stop taking you seriously (not that i was before tbh) if you are really gonna come around with that comparison.
  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @Vietfox said:
    Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:

    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Ok, from now on i'm gonna stop taking you seriously (not that i was before tbh) if you are really gonna come around with that comparison.

    DAMM Savage.

  • Orion
    Orion Member Posts: 21,675

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Im not sure whether to be sad or agreeing with you.

    The latter. If some people think other people nowadays are too sensitive, then what do they think of past generations, who literally murdered each other when they were offended?

  • Orion
    Orion Member Posts: 21,675

    @Vietfox said:
    Ok, from now on i'm gonna stop taking you seriously (not that i was before tbh) if you are really gonna come around with that comparison.

    It's a simple historical fact, but since it doesn't fit into your narrative, you elect to ignore it. That's OK. I don't expect rationality from people like you.

  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @Orion said:

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Im not sure whether to be sad or agreeing with you.

    The latter. If some people think other people nowadays are too sensitive, then what do they think of past generations, who literally murdered each other when they were offended?

    They still do (unfortunatelly) Its still sad though.

  • Orion
    Orion Member Posts: 21,675

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Im not sure whether to be sad or agreeing with you.

    The latter. If some people think other people nowadays are too sensitive, then what do they think of past generations, who literally murdered each other when they were offended?

    They still do (unfortunatelly) Its still sad though.

    Which just proves my point. People think those who complain about almost anything are "whiners" and "too sensitive", and decry it as "nowadays, people are too sensitive". Fact is, people have always been this sensitive, and even used to murder each other when they were offended.

    Given the alternative, I'll take the whiners, thank you. At least they aren't so sensitive that they feel the need to kill whomever offended them.

  • pauloandrade22
    pauloandrade22 Member Posts: 697

    @Orion said:

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @pauloandrade22 said:

    @Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    I know it's 2018 and people are so sensitive nowadays, but we need to put some limits on what's actually harmful.

    Yeah, it was way better in the past, where people killed each other when they were offended.

    Im not sure whether to be sad or agreeing with you.

    The latter. If some people think other people nowadays are too sensitive, then what do they think of past generations, who literally murdered each other when they were offended?

    They still do (unfortunatelly) Its still sad though.

    Which just proves my point. People think those who complain about almost anything are "whiners" and "too sensitive", and decry it as "nowadays, people are too sensitive". Fact is, people have always been this sensitive, and even used to murder each other when they were offended.

    Given the alternative, I'll take the whiners, thank you. At least they aren't so sensitive that they feel the need to kill whomever offended them.

    Oh yeah that is true. Im not easilly offended mind you( i get more offended from people i know than random strangers personally). If a stranger is rude i just dismiss and/or ignore them. If its just disagreeaments tho im perfectly calm and fine though.

  • Vietfox
    Vietfox Member Posts: 3,823
    Orion said:

    @Vietfox said:
    Ok, from now on i'm gonna stop taking you seriously (not that i was before tbh) if you are really gonna come around with that comparison.

    It's a simple historical fact, but since it doesn't fit into your narrative, you elect to ignore it. That's OK. I don't expect rationality from people like you.

    Funny you say that, cause i got a degree in history and my job is related to that (not only western history btw).
    So no, i'm not ignoring that xD. But compare both situations and times is simply dumb (trying to be as respectful as i can right now) because they are not related at all.
    "oh, people used to kill each other in the past, lets do something completely different and cry about petty things" it's not worse but it's not necessary either. Hope you get it now, but something tells me you won't (or won't be willing to understand at least)