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Friends Leaving DBD, How to Adjust?

Redv
Redv Member Posts: 16

Hey All,

I'm sorry if this is a bit of an odd post. However, it's something that's bummed me out and I was curious if others were dealing with a similar situation.

I'm primarily a survivor main. I do both solo queue and with friends (it's about 40/60). We weren't the best but we would have a lot of fun, and yeah we'd get tunneled but it didn't stop us from playing the game. But since the patch update, all of my friends have seemed to give up on the game (and that's like a good 8-10 people). Some cite burnout, others cite that it's too demoralizing/exhausting to play survivor since the changes, and I understand both perspectives. However, now I'm just kind of the only duck sitting in the pond and I'll admit, it pretty lonely. Just wanted to put this out there, in case others were in the same pickle, and maybe had some tips on how to adjust? lol

Comments

  • bittercranberry
    bittercranberry Member Posts: 454

    my friends introduced me to dbd and i remember i would never play online and would only do lobbies with them and we"d all take turns playing killer & having a blast but just like in your post they grew tired of the game (they warned me about devs and parts of the community) in fairness they have been playing long time before they showed me the game.

    personally i enjoy the solo experience/ single player so i didnt really have trouble playing without em. bummed 100% but i never let others dictate what games i want to play or play whats popular at the moment. plus i dont feel like talking when im gaming, im very immersive and being in a party and chuckling while playing any atmospheric game ruins it for me.

    id recommend to give the solo life a shot i suppose???

  • Bwsted
    Bwsted Member Posts: 3,452

    You seem like the type of person who would like the social side of playing with friends as well as solo.

    Playing solo takes care of itself.

    If your friends left, your option is to find another game you can enjoy together.

    For horror asymmetrical, there's so.e options: VHS, HSH, Prop Nights, Evil Dead and some others that are escaping me right now (no pun intended). Evil Dead is probably the best of the bunch.

    Or, you can just say screw it and go all-in on an all-time classic. And by that I mean VHS Porn Civ V.

  • Redv
    Redv Member Posts: 16

    Nah don't get me wrong, I do enjoy the solo q experience. Its just bums me out how many of them have like given up on the game. Some of them were already playing before I got into it, so I get their burnout. But a good chunk started around the same time I did. Kinda feels like everyone goes cringe if I even bring up the game nowadays lol.

    But ty for your perspective. I can relate. I personally find it easier to focus when I'm not chatting. May seem childish, but I guess what I'm really missing is just being able to share a love of the game with them.

  • Redv
    Redv Member Posts: 16

    I didn't know there were so many options. I think some of my friends might actually own Evil Dead. Might be worth investing in at some point. Ty for the suggestions!

  • Anniehere
    Anniehere Member Posts: 1,264

    Did they at least try to get used to the new changes?

    The matchmaking is weird when playing with players with different MMR score.

    I played with my friends after the update and the games were downright miserable, The killers were much better than us, and we were confused as to why we can't finish the gens and why the game is over too soon. Most of us didn't change the way we played before the changes, or even changed the build to make it easier on us.

    When each of us played on their own, the games have become much 'easier' because of better matchmaking and we were adapting to the changes.

    The experience of each solo player is different from others for one reason or another, but once you know the changes and how to play around them, playing with friends is going to be fun like before. Maybe more challenging with less escapes but having fun is not only in victories.

  • KateMain86
    KateMain86 Member Posts: 2,374

    This is literally my situation too. My friends who introduced me to the game over 2 years ago have all quit. Playing solo just isn't the same. As far as adjusting, nothing will ever replace that SWF experience so if you still like the game enough to want to keep playing it I would say play it here and there but maybe not all the time otherwise you'll keep being reminded how much better it was with your friends. Even with SWF the game wasn't always fun. There were a lot of matches where we just wanted it over and sometimes just played a different game. The matches that were fun were good memories and made it worth being something we would keep playing together. For solo que I think its harder to keep interest if you're going from SWF to solo.

  • Redv
    Redv Member Posts: 16

    They pretty much stopped wanting to play within the first few days of the changes. Some of my friends didn't even really want to touch the game when hearing their fav perks got nerfed.

    When we first played with the update, I'll admit, it was rough. But that's always to be expected with change. A lot of them seemed demoralized by how little we were surviving (now looking back, a lot of them were against clown, which probably didn't help lol).

    Tbh I tend to get more fired up the more challenging something is, so I started doing my research and testing out what builds fit better for me. I know every game can't be a winner, but at least I'm surviving some of them.

    Pre-update, I was also the friend who was prone to being a 'tunnel magnet' lol so being tunneled out of a game is not something I take too personally (legit was tunneled out of a game once just cause my username matched the name of the killer's ex, no joke). But I think for some of my friends, with how quickly they were getting downed, it got to them, so they've put the game away.

    I honestly hope they come back to it. Win or lose, I miss playing with my friends. We've had so many fun moments with this game. It'd be a shame.

  • Redv
    Redv Member Posts: 16

    I definitely feel you fam. Solo is great and all, good for getting challenges done. But nothing beats the silliness of playing with your friends. The absolute ridiculousness of queuing in as the same character, or attempting a meme build with the support of your squad- stuff like that just adds a whole new layer of fun to the game. Now it just feels like even suggesting we play dbd is taboo.

    Not only that but I lowkey find myself being more critical when playing solo. Since it's not my friends, I find myself being more impatient and less forgiving towards other players' mistakes. I've never been one to be sharp or rude in endgame chat, but I've had to stop myself a few times before I let my mood get the best of me. With friends, I'm not like that at all. Last thing I want to become some toxic tryhard. Granted it's something I need to personally overcome, but I do worry if the isolation is having a negative effect.

    There is one benefit to all this: w/o spending all night laughing and gaming, I'm able to fix my sleep schedule lol.

  • SunaIIanu
    SunaIIanu Member Posts: 826

    You could try to find new people to play with over the official discord or the forums.

  • SunaIIanu
    SunaIIanu Member Posts: 826
    edited July 2022

    Atleast half-official. I think it was founded by community members, than the Devs run it and now the community runs it again, but I think the dbd mods are still somewhat active there.