Why is it so hard to just be nice?
Hi I'm a stay at home mom to two special needs children. I play games as an escape from my every day life. I love to play survivor and killer but I've noticed some major hostility towards killers. It's so bad some nights I can't bring myself to play killer. You survivors know there is no game without a killer right? So why do you feel the need to be so mean? I'm not a camper and do everything I can to play fare but I still get t-bagged and swarmed. I just want to enjoy the game as intended and not stuck only playing survivor 😔
Basically what I'm trying to say is it takes nothing to be kind and please remember there is a person behind the screen.
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It's a massive issue that has plagued this game for a really long time because... I don't even know. People give killers a hard time for doing well that game or not doing well that game, it's stupid. Survivors get crap because of the same reason. Not many people care about the person on the other side of the screen and it's saddening that is the case. I hope you get it easier in future because it's absolutely not fun to be on the receiving end of this pointless harassment. Kind regards <3
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It's a PvP mentality coupled with mob mentality, honestly. PvP means people are extra frustrated when they lose, or potentially extra pumped up when they win. If they feel like taunting or yelling at the killer, they have three people who have no obligation (outside of moral) to side with the killer against them, and who may be encouraged by their hateful actions to add to the fire.
I don't condone this, of course. I try to not get toxic as much as I can in endgame chat, and do what I can to not play toxic as well, on either side. Generally it works well, outside of four stacks who think a killer who doesn't change maps whenever they hook someone is camping and tunneling, anyway.
If all else fails you can at least turn off end game chat, and the game remembers this decision so it won't open it again until you tell it to.
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I have a hard time believing the toxic people are grown adults...I mean, I'm sure there are some but my mind keeps telling me that these are a bunch of 9 year olds...
Do adults go to work...come home and then be a bunch of jerks on the internet?? It just seems so sad if that's the case...
I was really interested in playing Killer but gave up after a few matches cause it was too stressful. I only play Killer now if it's something simple in dailies. Like chases people or level up Meyers....or something simple in the rift....
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i would ignore post game chat, but this community can be really toxic.
But for all the toxic people, i find a lot of good survivores and especially more killers that are nice.
Im new to this game, and i like the killrrs who help me and give me advice, and although its few and far between, it helps that there are positve voices in the community. Although survivors are usually more toxic. My main trouble is im rank 13 killer, and get hardcore bullied in the start as hillbilly. Its hard to get a foothold in this community because of gatekeeping I agree. I literally have 80 hours in between killer and survivor from the past month.
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Killer is absolutely the more stressful role, but I can't encourage you to keep trying it enough. I remember feeling completely destroyed my first game as Wraith on one of the Macmillan maps wayyyy back in 2017. I was so bad, it shattered the illusion of being the strong killer immediately. Swapped to Trapper as he was supposedly an easier killer, and slowly but surely got better. Playing survivor helped me think like they did when killing, and I could see progress. Then I tried Nurse and it just clicked.
I may have dropped Nurse in the years since, but I'm able to hold my own against non-SWF 4 stacks as Wraith in red ranks. Not every game goes well, and I do still feel useless some games, but it's extremely satisfying to do well. With Pyramid Head on the horizon, my drive to play killer is higher than it's been in a while, and it really has been a lot of fun, even if some nights I swap to survivor fairly quickly due to frustration.
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Maybe I will give it another go Lord Regal, I have fun when they work on generators..but stress out when they don't and just want to harass me. 😢
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I notice at night this game gets extra toxic. I would suggest to stick with survivor for some reason this community thinks the killer is some kind of stress pillow they can abuse.
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Thankfully I'm on PS4 so no post game chat but the actions during the game really are bad 😔 I just want to enjoy the game and don't even care about getting kills. I'm not good at being killer and that's ok I really enjoy just giving some good jump scares 😊 No idea how many hours but I know it's a lot lol 😂
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I wish everyone would just 'be the change'. This game has gotten hard to play - not because the of game, because of the people and their behavior towards others.
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Do keep playing killer and if it's to many rounds of butt face survivors just take a break and try again another time. That's what I'm having to do tonight. I'm not going to let them stop me from enjoying killer all together 😊
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I try not to let stuff like teabagging get to me -- some people are just trying to get a rise out of you, so it's best to just do everything you can to ignore it and focus on your play. And in endgame chat, I always try to stay respectful and say gg. If survivors start being jerks, I just head out without saying anything else.
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This post.
Keep it up man! You're a great person with a great mindset. Thanks for the positivity. :D
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I know I shouldn't and most of the time I can but when I have really rough days with my kids I can't help being extra sensitive 😔 Tonight in all matches it was just really bad and I had to walk away. I honestly play just for fun. I'm not looking to win so that part doesn't upset me.
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A lot of the toxicity is pure, simple entitlement. Many people, regardless of what they say in balancing discussions, genuinely play survivor like it's the role that should win, because of favourable mechanics, teamwork and ease of gameplay. When they lose, since it's so easy to play survivor, it cannot possible have been their fault. So either a teammate screwed them over or the killer broke their precious rulebook. Either way, it wasn't their fault and now they are angry because they are cheated about what should have been THEIR victory.
It works both ways as well, I have been in plenty of games where none of my teammates use the DS's they had equipped and the killer complains about the perks they no-one even got to use. I get it if someone was in your face with a DS and forces you to eat it, or you got 59 second DS'd, but that clearly wasn't the situation and even despite my disgust at the perk I have to say it was an unwarranted rant. This is just one of many examples of toxicity in killers, but it is rather common. And the mentality that leads to it is reinforced by the fact that survivors can get carried to victory by these perks, so clearly just by having the equipped they got handed their victory.
In short, people just have this idea of what should happen in a match. Toxic survivors think that killers should obey their rulebook and that if they lost the killer broke it. Toxic killers assume that every lost game was because of unfavourable mechanics and second-chance perks. But the main source of this toxicity is a refusal to play both sides in a relatively equal measure to truly get a feel for what you opponent has to deal with, both in this match, the last one, and the one they are about to go into.
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What killer\s Do you like to play? I was having fun with Billy for a little bit....
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I get what you're saying but I'm not even a good killer lol 😂 I just play for fun and to get a good jump scares occasionally. I don't even care about "winning". No one should be mad at me and yet I guess they're 🤷
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Oh that's a hard one since I try to play everyone for the most part but my favorite is definitely Spirit. I can get some fun jump scares with her lol 😂 Ghost face for the same reason and being able to scare people from a window. This also scares the crap out of me as survivor! Bing bong boy seems to have gotten better when I played him recently. The only killer I can't figure out is Nurse 🤦 I use her for goofing off as the nicest Nurse ever 😊 I am missing some killers from my collection so my experience is still limited.
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#BeTheChange 😎
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I just block all communication options for players when playing DBD. The game is infinitely more fun to play.
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And no one's messaged you? Wow you must get some really nice survivors. I got blamed for facecamping and tunneling when I got a 4k on billy. I don't camp or tunnel. Once I got reported for speed hacking...I had doom engravings 😆
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For my entire Killer career my steam comment section is an endless chain of -rep's from dissapointed survivors. Bad comments about me, my internet, my playstyle. Even when I play survivor someone could be mad at me as teammate. There is so many rage I've got from survivors that not even bother me anymore. I get used to it. Somehow that people wouldn't say anything nice if you do good, but become toxic if there something they don't like. But when this bad comments chain breaks by +rep from some Dwight who I let to escape is just like a sunbeam from the cloudy sky. Really happy moments.
For good or for bad, because I get more toxicity and less good feedback I pay less attention to bad things and more to good. If it was opposite like more good comments and less toxicity I would became arrogant to good comments and be really insulted by bad comments.
Anyway it doesn't work for person who just want to relax. It's a long hardening some people can't afford.
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i feel you. play good/bad/fair/scummy most games you still fave toxicity as a killer. I hope you still play the game and manage to have fun.
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Oh no but I believe it's blocked or something idk my wife messes with settings not me lol 😂 I'm sorry you had to deal with that 😔
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It’s a pvp mentality.
When I played Friday the 13th, I would get it from Jason players and even other counselors... mind you in that game you can talk. So nothing was on text.
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I love the game to much to stop playing 😊 All try again tomorrow and hopefully have thicker skin if survivors insist on being toxic. It really all depends on the day I have with my kiddos.
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Yea it sucks when people hate the killer when they are simply... The killer.
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This game is about being killed savagely or surviving, not chess, if you want nice games try civ 6
Besides, since around 2014 why live in a sick society getting worse and worse, so do not expect nice human beings around, specially in western countries
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Honestly, being a good/bad killer has nothing to do with it, nor is trying to win. People just want to be toxic, and they want you to follow their rules. One of my favourite pastimes right now it to bind Ghostface's crouch to a macro and act like nothing is out of the ordinary, and I STILL had one team talk about how toxic I was being for spamming crouch. Full disclosure, it was in The Game and I did kill most of them, but they could hear me through walls and clearly see my bright white mask going up and down the edge of the doorway so #########. There's getting angry at t-bagging Ghostfaces and there's getting angry at a Ghostface that literally never stops t-bagging.
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Mob mentality.
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