Noob seeking Advice: Post game bullying messages

The best thing thing you could do is just say "gg" and move on, you dont have to even look at the messages

Dbd can be very frustrating even for new players, but the good thing is nothing bad will truely happen.

Just move on

Tbh you're probably gonna get a lot of heck for your killer choice, too, as bad as that sounds.

Turning messages off is the best option to not see them.. but you don't see the good ones either.

When I first played this game in 2018 I just disabled messages and friend requests during dbd sessions.

Now I leave it open because I don't care and if they say vulgar or rude stuff you can report them to sony and they could get banned eventually. Just enter the chat and you can do that and block them afterwards if they are persistant and annoying.

And one more thing that people here won't agree with. I suggest trying to disable crossplay while you are still learning the game. I am not new to this game but even I find it more fair playing against other ps people and my q times are similar.

And yeah, fanbase is kinda toxic tbh but many other games are similar. Humans are just horrible, it is in their nature. Good luck.

The matchmaking is really bad. So its normal to get survivors which are better. I started like you. After a while i disabled messages, but they send me friend requests to insult me. I have played many games, but 90% of the messages are from DbD. Now im over it and i have messages enabled again.

Tips:

1. Dont try to argue, most of the time its useless.

2. Report their message, Sony is quick and some get really scared when they get a warning from Sony.

3. Replying with only "Everything okay?" works good, too.

You should play whoever you want however you want.

People will never be happy even if you let them win they will either be pissed about something or just insult you.

Spirit gets a lot of hate in general because she's very strong. A low risk, high reward killer. You'll find lots of threads around here complaining about her and her lack of counterplay.

If you like her you should play her, she gets a lot of hate though. I think it's more towards the killer than the player.

I play on the PS5, previously on the PS4. The best advice I can give you is to turn off messages to all but people you're friends with. I did so almost immediately after I started playing, and I've never regretted it. I have still been able to talk with people I send friend requests to after particularly good games and have made some good friends that way. If there's salt from killers or survivors after my matches with them, I'm blissfully oblivious -- and I'm happy to keep it that way, lol.

I play solo survivor, and I always assume the other 3 survivors I'm playing with are SWF. Last thing I need is one of them messaging me afterwards to complain about how I didn't do this or that.

Blocking all messages and friend requests also means any hot take or insult they had ready for me is wasted.

Best thing is to just ignore them. Most of the time the ones sending these messages are quite bad at the game themselves, often requiring their better, more experienced, friends to carry them. You will find them at all ranks and will be toxic no matter what you do or how you play. So....just ignore their attempts at attention.

I don't know if you can do it on PS4, but on Xbox's messaging system I just send a Thumbs Up Emoji as a response and leave it at that. Alternatively, If they start with the toxic messaging I will sometimes mess with them and have an entirely different/off the wall conversation instead. Throws them for a loop and often have no idea how to respond. Most give up immediately after the first line or two and never message you again.

Also a ps4 player- Unfortunately some people will go out of their way to be rude. I will say when I was new I had a few people message me and give me tips on what killers to play based on my play style and be genuinely helpful- so there are some pretty cool people in the community too.

The matchmaking in general can be pretty off, which is why sometimes you get people way out of your rank.

OhTofu on youtube has good tutorials and does gameplay reviews that you can learn a lot from. I also second not Otzdarva. Also, playing survivor every now and then can teach you how to be a better killer because then you can learn from other killers.

Game is for people above 18+ if you cant handle bullying you need to stop playing the game.

So... number one, grow a thicker skin.

Number two, if you can’t, then set your messaging options on the PS4 to only allow messages from friends.

Just politely say **** off to them

Screw what everyone else is saying (didn't read the whole thread) this is something that will truly help you if you want to learn how to deal with toxic people who send hateful messages.

A little background information to show my experience from over the last 4 years of playing this game:

When I first purchased this game, I was going through a very tumultuous period in my life. I had just moved to a new state with my then pregnant girlfriend (now ex-wife) when my little brother succumbed to his disease. I was on my way to a job interview when I got the news. As you can imagine, I was in a very overwhelmed state.

A few months pass and I'm working two jobs to make ends meet. We're a bit more comfortable and I feel like playing games again (me and my brother have always been big gamers). I tried the game out on a free weekend, and instantly fell in love with it. I bought it as soon as the trial ended.

I was playing the game whatever free time I had when I wasn't handling other responsibilities, which frankly was very often, as my ex also loved watching the game. There were even times I barely wanted to play and she would make me because it helped her fall asleep.

I started out playing killer. I tried survivor first, and at first that was the selling point of the game for me, but then when I discovered how killers played, and how many add ons and perks and different ways you could play, I was instantly hooked and started playing survivor less for a bit actually. But playing as much as I did, it didn't take long before I started getting sent messages after each game once I passed the very early ranks...

So now, I've played slot of games where trash talk is common. Yes, I was there in the old MWF2 lobbies lol, but very many games in that era, especially on console, were toxic. Ask someone about old Injustice lobbies, or playing MVC 3, or pretty much any fighting game. Hell, even played my way through overwatch for some time.

But man, I never got soooo many toxic comments in such quick succession. I was actually shocked, and given my temperament, pretty angry, especially when it was accompanied by a loss. I legitimately felt rage like never before... At first. But over time of course I got better, which helped a lot in overall when I was able to overcome the loss factor. Still, even then I was getting very mad at the times I lost and got messaged or taunted in game...

So now we're past that lengthy prologue, I'll tell you what REALLY worked for me in the end.. You must embrace the toxicity.

Here me out, I don't mean.you have to be cruel, or go overboard. What I mean by this is you need to be able take what they give you, and dish it back in a way that makes them feel silly for being so concentrated on being cruel themselves.

Say something stupid back. Make a bad yo mama joke, tell them your dad works for Sony and you'll have their account banned for sexual harassment, say you were busy eating their wife's wig, anything. It will probably piss them off and give you something to laugh at instead of feeling aggravated.

Believe when I say this, you can be made a very angry person if you play this game and take it to heart..I have made many friend in this game who I've seen act irrationally angry and become an overall angrier person from playing. Don't let yourself fall victim to it, it feeds a rage addiction cycle and will be a.toxic load on your life, and I am not the only players to observe this.

Hopefully you can continue to enjoy this game, and if not, it's ok to put down. That wouldn't be a bad choice before reaching critical mass. But just remember, you don't have to meet rage with more rage.

Coming from someone whose had more messages of hate from this single game than any game I've played for the last 8 years of owning a playstation

I'm sorry you experienced this and also that is the state of this game. People will tell you to "get a thick skin" or "just ignore it" or some other BS because they are okay with the toxic behavior. I'd say do what feels right to you to still get enjoyment from the game while protecting your own mental well being.

I just had a game where I was doing my daily for Doc and I got called names for trying to get one kill after all the gens were done and the Survivors used all of their 14th chance perks on me to leave me with a 1k. That right there sums up the Killer experience in total.

It's a game where 4 players get the chance to bully, "outplay", and belittle their opponent. To some people that's a great deal of fun. To anyone with some human emotion and empathy that's pretty much a dick move.

I'm relatively new to the game as well and I can confirm there's some incredibly toxic survivors out there. I was trying to learn Nurse the other day and it was nothing but "u suck" and the equivalent messages after the game. I wish I could say it gets better, but I honestly don't have the experience to say that it does.

As far as getting better at the game quickly, look up videos from Not Otzdarva on youtube. I've been watching a LOT of his videos and they're incredibly in-depth, and very helpful.

I'm sorry to hear you've been having a bad experience, and I wish it was more rare.

Turn off messages and ignore them. When I first play this game I got put with smurfs.

I play PS4 and I’ve disabled messages appearing onscreen while I play so that if I want to read or answer them it’s easier to do it on my phone app. And since Ive initiated cross play my troll count is way down because apparently you don’t get messages outside of your platform.

Always report the ones that step over the line and start using slurs, these kind of people don't only say that to you so if they end up with a huge stack of reports action will be taken.

I usually call them out on being salty + send a gg with a heart. I have no idea why but this pisses them off enormously. I don't just sit there and take the ridiculous toxicity but also refrain from starting an argument since it's pointless and probably what they want. I also have the habit of listening to music between matches which is really relaxing.

Not childish advice, its litarly the age rating for this game + everyones always ultra toxic ingame so its not everyones cup of tea.

Did I say that toxicity is a good thing? No? Did I say that everyones always toxic? Yes, and if you know a game is full of toxic competetive people dont play it. Theres a reason why toxicity only happens in online competetive games, if you cant handle toxicity dont play competetive games, because toxicity wont ever go away. Toxic people will always try to be toxic, you can turn off the chat, but that wont prevent people from being toxic in game.

So yes, poor behaviour will always be a regulart part of this game, especially if BHVR keeps inducing the split of survivors and killers.

Competetiveness is the leading cause of toxicity.