Perks

sabo is good if you're in swf, solo you might not get much good use out of it that doesn't get you punished for it. I would go for dead hard fromd avid over meg's sprint burst unless you're good at managing the exhaust since dead hard gives you much more control over itself. fixated I think might be a nice pair with sprint burst, but I'd rather go for dead hard myself even when using it. dead hard is my favorite exhaust perk, but on a couple of maps I'd actually prefer balanced landing because it's way more effective on those. dead hard is universally helpful though and if you don't have it you should get it while still grinding out perks since you'll also get wglf along the way.

Iron will from jake is the perk that you can get a ton of use out of, and if you come up against spirit it directly counters her when she's using her power. combined with dead hard it an save you from a hook sometimes with both providing distance and stealth options together.

Calm spirit is good against the plague's perk that makes you scream when somebody gets incapped near you, along with any other perk that makes you scream and against the doctor's abilities' portions that make you scream. But it can also feel like a waste to bring along for many, many matches in a row until you get another of those kind of games. If you're in swf they'll know when you're down and getting hooked s it's only a positive against those killers, perks or kind of situations and you won't need most aura perks with comms so you could have a slot to spare. I guess overall your friend is right about jake's perks being better, i unlocked them first on my ps5 acc and still left meg's since I'd really only use adrenaline and as a solo I could be just as likely to have to get the hatch than a gate if I'm not dead already. So jake's calm spirit and iron will helped me more on thata cc along with dead hard.