What does your fun isn't my priority mean

Basically playing without considering the fun of the other side in mind, if it's in the game and you want to use it to win or have fun then go ahead. Player's shouldn't be and aren't at fault for using the tools in the game to win and if you're mad be mad at the devs. I will say that not caring about the other sides fun =/= wanting the other side to be miserible which is something some people seem to confuse at times.

The killer is free to tunnel, camp and slug to win and the survivors are free the gen rush, t-bag and use flashlights to win as examples and if people don't like that don't blame the player blame the devs. I'm not saying people can'tconsider what's fun for the other side if they want to however they shouldn't be expected to.

For me, this phrase feels more reflective on the person than the words themselves.

Technically, the phrase is accurate for everyone. All players want to play the game their way, which is their right because - in many cases - they bought the game, not someone else, so have the right to choose how it is played. This doesn't mean that player's idea of fun is to make others not have fun.

However, the problem isn't the phrase but the type of people who use it. Those who use it are often hurt themselves. They've had bad experiences which they realise they're powerless to change. So they let themselves be consumed by this and the phrase becomes less of a factual point and more of a way of excusing themselves. It becomes a bit like the phrase: "I'm not meaning to be rude, but...".

Even nicer players usually have a selfish reason as part of what they do. For example, I don't tunnel or camp. Sure, there's empathy there, but it's also because the tactics are too easy and rather boring to me. If I found them fun, then perhaps I'd do it more? I dunno.

So in reality, many people have this mentality. It's just that some people get hurt more than others, so use this idea as an armour for their reasons in playing - a way of distancing themself from what has happened before. In reality, if I ever started to feel like this, I'd just play another game personally.

It means exactly what it says.

Your fun is not my priority, my priority is my fun. Now the issue is the game isn't designed to allow me to only care about my fun, I have to also care about survivors' fun as when I play killer I AM their fun. If I prioritize my fun over survivors too strongly I can expect to get harassed, but if I over prioritize survivors' fun I basically resign myself to losing most games and still getting harassed.

So at some point you have to pick which one you care about more and I learned to care about my fun more than my opponents' fun. It shouldn't be my full responsibility to ensure the game is fun for them, that should be on the devs to make more engagement options for survivors that don't revolve around the killer. When I do play survivor I would like to have fun regardless of whether or not the killer is in the mood to facilitate what is commonly agreed upon as "fun in DBD". I shouldn't be subject to the killer's whims

For some, it means they're using tactics in the game that are very much allowed but aren't necessarily fun for the other side.

For others, it's a phrase used to excuse unsportsmanship behaviour.

Basically that they want to prioritise their victory over anyone else having fun, so that they can complain if they're beaten that they're not having fun.

I'm seeing a lot of comments here tying the statement to players bringing the strongest perks/add-ons for their side, and playing how they want, regardless of what experience it provides for the opposition.

That has always been an issue with the game.

The phrase "your fun isn't my priority" is becoming wildly popular right now because it has been adopted by self-serving survivors. Whether it is disconnecting, killing yourself on first hook, or outright refusing to progress the objective at any point in time, the phrase and mentality is being used to justify the actions of really poor teammates.

Solo survivor has never been more difficult, yet "your fun isn't my priority" is now the rallying cry of survivors who would sooner queue into another game than help their fellow survivors make it out alive.

Sportsmanship in DBD is dead.

People have been turning a blind-eye to this attitude for years, and BHVR in-turn has facilitated changes that support the self-serving survivor. Now that it has been brought into the limelight, I hope BHVR and the community acknowledge how damaging it really is. If not, it will be the death of this game.

Historically, yes, it's been a thing Killers say to Survivors after face-camping, tunneling, bleeding everyone out, etc.

Recently, however, there has been a massive rise in Survivors using the phrase to excuse their poor sportsmanship. Sure, it is the game designer's responsibility to make sure winning and having fun can coexist. But no amount of game balance will change an awful teammate. It is our responsibility as Survivors to be team players. If we can't do that one simple thing, we shouldn't be playing a team game.

Survivors are done being team players, because it is incredibly unrewarding. Rather than owning up to the fact that being a team player is unsatisfying--and calling on BHVR to make a change--people are hiding behind the veil of "my fun isn't your responsibility."

True, it is the game designers job to punish players for ruining all other players fun. Whether that be nerfing tunneling and camping in same way and adding power to killer in another way or making it so survivors can't dc for free at any inconvenience(dc penalty also needs to be longer though).

In my experience, it comes from the side that does the scummy thing. Not the other way round.

Both, really.

It’s not the “I’m playing to win” crowd, I’m a part of that myself.

It’s the “I’m playing to win at any cost, ideally denying the opposition the ability to play the game at all.” crowd. That, and salt-farmers.